One quiet, Christmas moment in Boystown…
Since I cover politics, and spend most days writing about things like Voter Fraud, the Pigford Scam, or terrible things the Left is doing, it’s almost alien for me to write about anything sweet, quiet, and smile-inducing. Even if I try to make whatever awful thing Democrats are doing that day more palatable by ridiculing it and using satire to help get readers through the day, as much as possible, covering politics means not writing about too many feel-good things. Being a vocal critic of the Left means I also, unfortunately, don’t get to have many feel-good moments in my own life, because of the massive retribution I get from the Left for speaking out against them (though, other conservative writers repeatedly tell me I am not doing my job if I don’t have at least a half dozen hate sites dedicated obsessively to me).
Two months ago I started dating a really great guy named Justin, just after Halloween.
I love the guy, and think it’s going to turn into something.
He’s my “unicorn”…the mythical, gay, conservative Republican in Boystown who not only knows who I am and is fine with my politics and profile, but actually cheers me on to hit the Left harder and take everything up to a whole new level in 2011. Justin’s a big fan of Governor Palin’s, too, and has been going to Tea Party events since the beginning. He actually heard me speak at the first Tax Day Tea Party here in Chicago, without knowing who I was at the time, and his mom’s been reading my essays for over a year, also never thinking she or her son would ever meet me.
I’ve been brutalized by the Left for being a gay conservative, especially since I’m a former Democrat who left the party in 2008 when the party I knew deliberately veered irreparably to the Left, booting conservatives like me out for good. Gay Leftists, in particular, focus their ire on me because they don’t want other gays to step off the reservation as well, and start questioning the value of blindly voting Democrat over and over again. So, for that, I must be destroyed in the Left’s mind, and they’ve set about on an Alinsky Methods campaign to alienate me from my community here in Boystown, and larger gay circles nationwide.
I never expected to meet a guy like Justin…someone who clearly sees what the Left is doing, is personally aware of the Left’s bullying of me for being a gay conservative, and is totally unafraid of being with me considering all of this. He loves that I stand up to these bullies, and I love him for that support.
A few days ago, I woke up before Justin and wrestled with whether or not to ask him what he was going to do for Christmas, not knowing whether or not we’d been dating long enough to spend a major holiday together. Male relationships are strange in this regard. The joke with lesbians is that they meet, have a date, and then move in together…so of course they’d spend the holidays together. Straight couples seem to do this as well, if they aren’t going to family events where a boyfriend or girlfriend would be grilled in the “When are you going to get married?” department.
But, with two guys together, it’s awkward and strange when it comes to holidays. Most guys don’t want to be in a relationship, and are just tomcats at heart…so they often deliberately sabotage something before it becomes too serious and holidays bring unwanted expectations to the surface. It’s easier for a guy to break up with someone and move on to the next boy than for him to admit he really likes the guy he’s seeing and confront the possibility that they could share a holiday together…because that would mean something…and meaning something gets more complicated than meeting someone new at Roscoe’s and never bothering to catch his last name.
So, running out of time before Christmas, I wondered if I should ask what Justin was up to that day, since I knew his family’s all in Arkansas, where his mom and dad have a small veterinary practice and his sister teaches kindergarten. His parents love him, but don’t accept that he’s gay, and every time he comes home for anything, they “surprise him” with some friend of theirs who has a daughter who magically shows up unannounced at dinner time to join them…and meet Justin. I didn’t know if he’d be going back to Eureka Springs to spend Christmas with them, or if he’d end up at an “orphans’ Christmas” here in Boystown, with some of his coworkers and their friends, like he did at Thanksgiving.
“Orphans’ Christmas” is what a lot of gay guys here in Chicago do, when either their families don’t want them home for the holidays because they are gay, or when they can’t make it home for Thanksgiving or Christmas, for whatever reason.
After Justin woke up and I gave him enough time to transition out of dream time and into reality, I asked him where he was going to be on Christmas Day and he looked at me, sleepy-eyed, the covers still pulled up almost over his head, and said, “I’m going to be wherever you are, doing whatever crazy thing you are up to that day, most likely hearing about voter fraud from you, or probably Pigford some more”.
He pulled in closer, held me tighter, and added, “And I’m going to make sure you have fun on Christmas, and don’t spend the whole day trying to save the world or washing pots on the Southside, like you did on Thanksgiving, or driving around town up to your usual antics. You’re going to have a real Christmas too, for at least part of the day. And then you can talk about voter fraud all you want on the radio somewhere on Sunday”.
So, Justin’s going to come with me to make a half dozen stops Christmas morning to deliver presents and foods to the homebound AIDS-afflicted with me, through a ministry I volunteer with, and then we’re going to have our own little Christmas back at Buzzquarters where I’m going to put on a Christmas movie I like, and he’s going to put on one of his favorites, and we’ll have dinner and drink a nice bottle of wine and end up listening to music in my room, with the computer screen tuned out of HillBuzz and voter fraud and Pigford…and instead glowing with an electronic yule log, like it should be Christmas Day.
Just me and my unicorn.
I’m his unicorn, too, by the way. He even used the same word I do…because he didn’t think he’d meet another conservative guy in Boystown, after having dated an unbroken string of Lefties and blind-voting Democrats, who didn’t know why they were even “Democrats” except that Keith Olbermann and Rachel Maddow told them they had to be. His coworkers told him not to talk to me because I was “that conservative writer” and “evil celebrity”, or “that guy from TV we hate”, which ironically enough made Justin more, not less, interested in meeting me.
“It’s going to be hard for my mom and dad to hate you when they meet you,” Justin said later in the morning, after we’d been talking about Christmas. ”They’ll want to hate you, because you’re gay and we’re together, but it’s going to be hard because my mom reads you and my dad agrees with everything you say, except the liking guys stuff. It’s going to be funny. I can’t wait to see the smoke come out of their ears as they try to figure you out. My sister will probably just make noises. She won’t know what to say. She does that sometimes”.
That, right there, was an early Christmas present for me, too…because rarer than a unicorn is a gay man who wants his boyfriend to meet his parents…especially when he’s never brought anyone down to Eureka Springs to meet his parents before.
That’s definitely not happening this year…and next Christmas I’ll be in Iowa campaigning for Governor Palin in advance of the 2012 primary…but Christmas in Arkansas might just be in the cards for me come 2012.
It really is a wonderful life, full of all sorts of oddball twists and turns.
Whatever you are doing today and tomorrow, I hope you have something quietly magical in your own lives on par with what I’ve found in Justin.
I hope you all have love in your hearts, and all around you, this Christmas…and if you do, I surely hope you know and appreciate it.
Knowing you are blessed, and thanking God for every minute of it, celebrating and savoring it, is rarer than any Christmas unicorn.
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Thank you for this essay. I'm glad you'll have someone to spend Christmas with.
Sounds like a Merry Christmas indeed. Enjoy, and have a Happy New Year.
Kevin, Merry Christmas to you and Justin! I'm happy that you two found one another. God bless you and Justin as y'all deliver meals and cheer to those less fortunate. May you both have a joyous Christmas! Thank you too, for all you do for Gov. Palin and for America, the greatest country in the world.
I pray for you, as I do for all the brave warriors who take up not the rifle, but the pen, so to speak, and fight to save America and spread the truth about Sarah Palin, that you be protected by God's grace from the evil of the left that you so bravely face and expose. You're a warrior Kevin. Thank you.
I'm still high fiving myself when Kevin talks about his BF. I remember his fears about being alone.
I'm meeting my GF's parents (and grandmother) for the first time on St. Stephen's Day. They're flying in and I'm kinda feeling like I'm on trial. (Kinda – they seem like lovely people.)
Anyhoo, I hope meeting Justin's parents and sister goes well. It's nice for us to read you and know you're happy.
I won't be meeting his family just yet.
I hope to though.
I've only ever met two boyfriend's family.
I'm actually friends with one of the guy's mom, to this day. She sent me a Christmas email yesterday, actually, and I dated her son back in 1995!
That is just about the sweetest story ever. Merry Christmas to Unicorns everywhere!
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Merry Christmas, Kevin! I hope you have a couple of days of peace and goodwill!
You too.
Merry Christmas to everyone!
Merry Christmas, Kevin. I hope you and Justin have a wonderful weekend. Will you have some fresh, white snow in Chicago this weekend? Nothing better than sitting in front of the fire watching Christmas movies with soft snow falling outside.
Looking forward to Hillbuzz 2011!!! So get some rest and renew your soul.
Why does it have to be "white" snow.
RAAACIST!
Watch out for that yellow snow, Nanook!
You got something against lemon flavoring?
Must be RAAACIST too!
Everyone is RAAACIST!
Hope!
Change!
Merry Christmas to the two of you – and to the rest of the Hillbuzz community.
One of my Facebook friends, and older woman who worked with my husband, has a gay son in another state. I spent 19 minutes this morning watching a video that he and his partner posted on his mom's wall – they filmed themselves opening all of their Christmas presents. It was the cutest thing ever. And the whole time I was just thinking what a lucky mom she is to have a son who loves her so much and isn't afraid to show it. I know she feels the same way. It boggles the mind that some families willingly deprive themselves of that love just because their child does not fit their expectations.
Thank you for everything you do here, and Merry Christmas!
Merry Christmas, Kevin and Justin. May the joy you feel today never end.
What Justin said to you brought tears to my eyes. He is a special man and I am glad you found each other. Have a very Merry Christmas!!
A very Merry Christmas to you both and to all fellow Buzzers!! May 2011 bring you every good thing!!
I do indeed have something quietly magical in my life, and I'm so glad that you've found Justin. For a few months there, my regular prayers went something like, "Please don't let Obama get re-elected, please don't let anyone close to me die – and please let Kevin from HillBuzz get a really nice boyfriend, because he thinks he's going to be alone forever and that's really depressing."
How are the other Boyz doing this Christmas?
Merry Christmas Kevin to you and Justin. Eureka Springs has a rep as a very liberal town so surprised his parents live there. Anyhow if you ever make it to Little Rock let me know! LOL!! And tell all the orphans in Boystown that a conservative in Little Rock wishes them the best Merry Christmas and Happy New Year 2011. This is the first Christmas in gosh I think five years or so I am spending it home in Little Rock and not Buffalo, IL where my dad a former Arkansas and Illinois state worker lives (its right outside of Springfield). I love reading your take on Illinois and Chicago politics because I hear it from dad and heard from my late stepmother!!
Chicago has a rep as a very liberal town too, and yet here we are! There are some of "us" everywhere!
What a wonderful, heartwarming story!
As a new reader to Hillbuzz I want you to know that I enjoy your commentary very much.
And as a Palin fan I know that we have a lot of work to do to get her elected. 2011 and 2012 will be an exciting time!
What a wonderful Christmas present you gave to Justin by writing and posting this piece. Merry Christmas and happiness to the both of you. I look forward to a bright and conservative 2011. The work has just begun! Keep up the good work and keeping us informed.
Merry Christmas to you, Kevin! You are lovely … I will embarrass us both by saying your blog has changed me … honest! I used to have a very pat "hate the sin, love the sinner" response to anything gay. That is not me anymore! I am genuinely glad you and Justin have each other this Christmas.
Peace be with you.
I'm with you, belltower1. I am happy for Kevin and Justin.
Merry Christmas from your hometown, Cleveland. We visited the Christmas Story house yesterday and will have TBS on in the kitchen all day watching it over and over! Enjoy this blessed day, Kevin and may God bless you and Justin.
Merry Christmas to you and Justin, Kevin. God bless both of you.
What a happy post for the Christmas season. Blessings to you and your unicorn.
This post sure brightens my day. Get some rest Kevin & Justin – you're going to need it because you got your work cut out for you in 2011 & 2012. Remember, one of your most daunting tasks will be going up against the all-knowing OPRAH! That cow will do anything in her power to discredit SP and get the big ZERO re-elected. I swear she grates on my last nerve.
I am so happy for you, Kevin. Merry Christmas and I'm wishing you and Justin a love-filled 2011. You've had a stressful 2010 – though most of us feel we have also, it doesn't compare to yours…you have been on the anti-utopia frontline since 2008 with all your ninja stars and training us how to throw them. And you've been taking hits from the alinskyites like a true hero – and getting back up like a Joe Palooka puncher. I am happy to hear you will be taking time this season to relax and to enjoy Justin and let him care for you as you do him. Time to make plans for the summer…Iowa sounds nice, eh?
Kevin, may I wish you and Justin a Very Merry Christmas. I want to wish everyone here a Merry Christmas also.
Eureka Springs is an Eclectic town and has a WIDE range of citizens (to say the least). I love the houses and buildings there – a cool and history rich town. By the way if Justin has not told you – Eureka was built with Chicago Mob money way back when. I am originally from near by and live up north of there a bit now. Once you all get down this way, hollar at me. I will buy both of you a nice dinner somewhere.
Kevin, other hillbuzzers, & Justin, I hope that you have a happy and good Christmas. By the way, I live only a few hours drive from Eureka Springs, but never have been there. I do travel not very far from there yearly on my way to & from Kansas.
Merry Christmas to you, Justin, and the whole HillBuzz community. Please have fun and relax — we have tons to do in the New Year.
God Bless and Keep You.
Your Christmas story touched my heart deeply. I first found HillBuzz when you wrote that moving article about President Bush back in 2009 http://hillbuzz.org/2009/01/20/goodbye-and-thank-…
I've been following you ever since, and have seen tremendous growth, wisdom and strength. I wish you and Justin a very Merry Christmas and prosperous New Year!
That is about the best story I could have read in the lead-up to Christmas Day! Kevin, I am so happy for you right now – I'm just grinning from ear-to-ear!
Merry Christmas to Kevin, Justin and all of my fellow Buzzers out there!
Merry Christmas, Kevin and Justin; I'll be spending a peaceful Christmas here at home in Milwaukee with my little sis, Gloria. While catching up on some of your previous essays, I ran across the one wherein you took a numbskull to task for publicly making fun of Trig Palin. Gloria also has Down's Syndrome, so you can imagine what it meant to me to have you defending the defenseless the way you did. I've been doing it now for the 44 years of her life, and it is a lonely fight. It is extremely rare for someone who doesn't have a loved one with Down's to "get it", but you definitely "get it". Those of us in the Down's universe are truly a family, even though we may not know each other personally, and you are an honorary member of that family. A happy and prosperous 2011 to you!
That is just about the nicest thing anyone has ever written me. Seriously.
You give Gloria a great big Christmas hug from me…and tell her she has a friend in Boystown.
You have one too!
Hugged and message delivered!
Merry Christmas Kevin and Justin and all the boyz at Hillbuzz.I love it that you two are falling in love.It is the perfect season for it.Love hope and faith.Kev I know Justin's family are all going to fall in love with you,too.I wish you both much happiness.
This is so cute and cozy. Merry Christmas.
Merry Christmas to Kevin and friends.
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