DOOM ANTIDOTE: Why not start your day with a little “What’s My Line?”…and see how great it makes you feel.
Tomorrow starts a new year, and with it everything gets a fresh start.
We have two years (and change) left of the Obama Regime, and about 18 months to stop Jeb Bush or some other Cocktail Party Establishment loser from becoming the GOP’s nominee. I’d like to think we also have 18 months to prevent another lunatic Leftist from getting the Democrats’ nomination, but I just don’t see how the Left will surrender power (so I expect someone like Elizabeth Warren to be the nominee…or a whackadoodle like that). It’s going to be an interesting 23 months until the general election. We weren’t able to stop the Left from holding power for 8 years but we do have a chance to elect someone committed to undoing the damage of the Obama Regime. So all is not lost.
One of the great successes of the Left in the last decade or so is the funk that Americans are solidly in. We’re in an economic depression, but also a spiritual, emotional, and psychological one as well. Everyone I know is either just scraping by financially or living paycheck to paycheck and laying awake at night. Some friends wonder where their next meals will come from. And no one I know understands why both political parties are racing to import as many illiterate third world peasants from Central America as possible…at a time when Americans are out of work and black families, in particular, are suffering (due to cuts to various social benefits programs…which will be cut even further because of the mass importation of illiterate Central Americans). Both the Left and the Cocktail Party Establishment Republicans seem like they want to burn the country down to the ground.
While I know why the Left wants this (it’s the sole reason they exist), I’m puzzled (and lay awake at night trying to figure this out) by why the Cocktail Party wants to turn America into a poor, Third World nation full of newly arrived Spanish-speakers who have a fondness for socialism and communism and nationalizing industries. Makes no sense to me.
Our pop culture is revolting. That realization brings everything in life full circle for me, because I remember it being 1984 or so and Sister Mary Howard in grade school stopped our classroom chatter one morning before the bell rang to start school and demanded that we all stop talking about Cyndi Lauper and Michael Jackson and Toto or whatever singers we were all into. She went on a tear about how terrible television was and how bad movies were…and it’s funny to think back on that because I think all of this stuff is classic now. She hated shows like Facts of Life and The A-Team (or whatever) and couldn’t stand movies like Rocky IV…and I find myself truly horrified when I look at what’s on television today and in movie theaters. It’s revolting. I’m reminded that Sister Mary Howard was ahead of the curve, calling things I thought were good back in 1984 revolting…so I don’t even dare to dream what she’d think of the Kardashians or the Purge movie series.
I made an interesting discovery a while back that I’d like to share with you, because we’re friends like that. It’s been a very effective way for me to reconnect with how Americans used to behave and what people once found enjoyable and interesting. I also, after 30 years, finally understand what Sister Mary Howard was getting at when she derided television and movies in the 1980s. She was comparing all that to the entertainment back when she was young…which included shows like “What’s My Line?”.
This is a show that could never exist today, simply because I feel people have become too stupid to appreciate something like this. Every day, I watch an episode first thing in the morning as I’m eating breakfast. A wonderful channel on YouTube posts a “new” episode every day, starting as far back in the archives as tapes were available. The show ran for many years, with an erudite and articulate panel of witty characters who had to guess either the identity (if it was a famous person) or the occupation of someone put before them on the show.
I watch with a pen and paper and take notes on different things I learn about the time period, and about American culture back when the show aired. It’s a marvelous time capsule into the past. No one feels the need to be crass or make sexual comments. No one is opening champagne bottles and pouring bubbly into glasses balanced on their ample derrieres. No one is screaming “Rayciss! Rayciss! Rayciss!” and prompting people to violence.
The episode I chose to show you today featured Diahann Carroll as a guest. Watch how the panel treats her…and remember that this was filmed in 1962. According to the Left, America is a horrifically racist country and white people are just demons that are always out to get the poor black folk. That’s what the Left teaches in public school and what the Justice Brothers claim on their swaths of destruction across the cultural landscape here in 2014. Back in 1962, however, on “What’s My Line?”, Diahann Caroll — clearly a black woman — was treated warmly and lovingly by the panel…who couldn’t hide their genuine admiration and affection for her.
And can I just say — WOW — was Diahann Carroll ever stunning. I had to research what show she was in on Broadway that the panel kept talking about, and it ended up being ‘No Strings”, a show she won a Tony Award for. The panelists loved her in it…and loved her in general. It’s the same with all the black celebrities that appeared on this show, from Ella Fitzgerald to Louis Armstrong to Etta James and beyond. Where’s all the irredeemable racism that supposedly infected everything in the past and still infects everything today, according to the Justice Brothers anyway.
Can you imagine a tee-vee show today where a panel knows what shows are on Broadway, what actors and actresses are starring in plays, what famous writers have released books, what explorers or scientists recently discovered something interesting?
Americans used to be SMART. Sharp, witty, jovial…and always so warm and kind. And this wasn’t an act. It wasn’t a put-on. And it wasn’t just the panelists. There was a live studio audience for this show, and they got very joke, laughed in all the right places, and were entertained by this marvelous show for almost 20 years!
And — again — something happened around 1971. That’s when “What’s My Line?” was canceled. A deliberate decision was made to dumb down everything on tee-vee…and eradicate shows with a rural theme, in what was known as CBS’s “rural purge”. Across the board, the decision was made to turn the dial and make everything gritty, sexual, loud, and violent. And the dial’s never been turned back since.
Every morning, I like to switch it back myself for a few minutes. I love trying to figure out who the celebrities are, so sometimes I don’t watch what’s playing and only listen to an episode. I don’t know how they guess some of these correctly (though I imagine they read the papers and paid attention to what celebrities were in town on other shows that day, figuring they’d be likely to pop over to “What’s My Line?”).
I call this a “Doom Antidote” because too often all we hear is how terrible things are right now and how the country is doomed and how all is lost. When you look at the sort of people Americans used to be and compare that to the America of today, I think you’ll see the influence of the Left and the toxic, hateful environment that has been deliberately engineered. Who was behind this? Was it communists or Soviet moles or other anarchists and radicals who patiently plotted the collapse of America by eroding our culture and ruining our education system? That’s a good guess. And it’s probably right. I also think the Devil himself was involved, because collapsing America from within and extinguishing this torch of liberty we’ve carried benefits no one more than Satan.
I think the first step towards getting the pendulum to swing back the right way is to rediscover how great Americans could be. I honestly find that after watching an episode of “What’s My Line?” every morning that I have more patience with people, at least for the first half of the day. The manners these panelists had and calm, jovial way these people spoke to one another is infectious. Contrast how you feel after watching an episode of this with how you feel after listening to the foul language on a modern reality show or the violent, screaming and yelling of what passes as music right now.
I think our brains need role-modeling like this. I think our souls hunger for it. These panelists are ladies and gentlemen interacting with ladies and gentlemen and having a marvelous time using their brains. No alcohol, drugs, vulgarity, or nudity needed. Imagine that!
Tomorrow we begin 2015…and with it another great fight for the soul of our country that will lead up to the 2016 election. I believe all Americans can be better than we collectively have been for a while…and I believe we can rediscover the greatness of our past. But only if we try.
Will you try? Together as friends I think we’ll accomplish great things in the next 23 months.
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We’re in the countdown to big “Pride Parades” around the country this coming weekend…and so we’re continuing out look at questions people have about the “gay community” that you hear the State Media talk so much about. Here are some things that readers want to know:
1. QUESTION: What do gay guys really think about women who come out to gay bars?
ANSWER: Gay guys on the whole hate women coming to gay bars in groups…but one or two women friends in a larger group of guys is okay. Bachelorette parties, however, are universally despised. A few years ago, in fact, two bars in Boystown here in Chicago banned bachelorette parties altogther: Charlies (a western bar that becomes a techno dance hall late at night) and Cocktail (the now-defunct bar on Roscoe at Halsted that was shuttered multiple times in recent years for not paying its taxes). Charlie’s made a lot of news in the past for also charging women $20 covers to enter the bar, saying it was “Guys’ Night”…and challenging the convention that women pay little or no cover at most straight bars but men are charged $20 or more to enter. Women howled about this…but, frankly, I think a gay bar SHOULD charge women a high cover if straight bars are charging men outrageous amounts. Fair is fair…and maybe that would lead to no bars having one price for men and one for women.
There’s a bar in Boystown called Kit Kat that actually caters to Bachelorettes on Saturday nights. They have drag queens and hot bartenders/waiters and the whole place is set up for straight girls from the suburbs to come down to Boystown to “experience” it. I have mixed feelings about all this. On one hand, I can see why women want to come to a gay bar for a Bachelorette party…since it is guaranteed to be a safe place where men will not hit on the women and they can be “wild”. There’s hot guys (which women like) but they are all essentially defanged for that evening…since the boys are interested in each other and the women want to look but not be touched. Kit Kat is one of the smartest businesses in Chicago because it recognized it could corner the market on these Bachelorette parties. I swear, if you want to make a fortune where you live you should consider opening up a gay bar that devotes Saturdays to drag shows and Bachelorette parties…because you would mine gold and print money in that place. You will turn off a lot of your gay clientele…but I think it would even out with what the Bachelorettes would spend, especially if you have barely dressed go-go-boys and maybe even a corner racket selling some of the lewd and “outrageous” Bachelorette party accoutrement that the women spend hundreds of bucks on (such as plastic penis hats, penis shaped cups, etc…which also could come in handy if a surge in Japanese immigrants ever settles in your area, since they could use all this for their Kanamara Matsuri rituals too).
The big gripe you hear from gay guys about women coming to Boystown in groups is that it makes the guys feel like they are animals in the zoo that these straight girls are there to gape or laugh at. I just don’t think this criticism is valid, though, because I’ve never seen women pointing at gays like “Ooooh, lookit! Fags!!! Real life, honest to goodness, fags…right here in River City!!!”. Please. I do grant that the women can get really obnoxious and falling-down drunk…because they lose their inhibitions since they feel like they don’t have to watch how much they drink without predatory heterosexual males around. Women in a gay bar feel safe…when in a straight bar they have been conditioned to think that every guy around them is just waiting to drop a date rape drug in their drinks. That’s because the State Media has terrified women about this…in much the way that these fear-mongers claim that every storm on the horizon is “The Storm of the Century!”.
In a gay bar, women know they aren’t going to be hit on by gay guys…so they drink and drink. A few interesting things happen with this:
* the really pretty girls who are used to never paying for anything in a straight bar and having to fight men off with their purse get angry all of a sudden and usually cause drama…because it’s like they have lost all their magical powers and they resent having to pay for drinks. The prettier the girl, the more she will hate being in a gay bar the longer she’s there…because she will crave the attention she gets at the sports bar she normally goes to.
* the heavier girls with “pretty faces” that straight guys call fat discover gay bars and never want to leave…because a lot of gays see these women as living Barbies and volunteer to make them over, just like you see on tee-vee. It’s an almost irresistible impules in a lot of gay men to start trying to fix a woman’s hair or give her makeup or fashion tips, especially if these guys work at salons or in the retail industry. It really is true that gay guys are great at, and love giving, makeovers for women who are diamonds in the rough.
* women are really cheap in bars, I think because they aren’t used to paying for things in straight bars. Some of them don’t even know they need to tip the bartender…or they just leave 50-cents or a quarter, whatever is change from the chardonnay they are drinking. Standard tip is one dollar per drink, but more if it’s something complicated. Most guys leave a buck for every beer they drink in a bottle…and two bucks if it’s any kind of mixed drink requiring two or more steps. Some women who do not go out often order very complicated things like daquiris and special martinis that bartenders have to look up in their little books…and then the women stiff the bartenders on a tip. This builds a lot of resentment.
* some women, as they get drunk in a gay bar, forget that the night is not about them believing they are the reincarnation of the cast of “Sex & the City”…and that actually all the gay guys there don’t give a damn about them. Women have the attitude that “this is our special night out and you will make it magical for us!” when all the guys around them are like, “No, this is just Monday night in Boystown and you are making too much noise and being obnoxious and I can’t wait for you to leave”.
Personally, I’d take a female friend to bars in Boystown for a fun night. I’d take two female friends as well. But, three or more might be too much…unless we’re going to Kit Kat where they purposefully cater to that kind of night. Just the other day I saw a group of girls from one of the colleges here in Chicago out with their lone gay friend, and I think it was his birthday or something. The girls were obnoxious and one woman in a green dress was so drunk that she’s unforgettable: she was walking like everything below her knees was made of rubber and the floor was revolving underneath her, kind of dragging her along. I remember it was this pretty emerald dress with very intricate embroidering that was probably very expensive…until it was soaked in vomit, urine, and feces by the end of her night. Bless her heart. Her male friend was mortified…and kept apologizing to other guys for the behavior of his friends. I thought as a group they were really sweet though…because it was super clear to me that they were treating their gay male friend to a night out for his birthday and the guy looked like maybe he had just recently come out. He still had that bewildered look of a newly liberated gay, free from the closet for the first time ever…and being overwhelmed by everything he was seeing and experiencing. Some of the girls looked really uncomfortable, so they had probably never been in a gay bar either…but they were there with their friend. I kind of loved that.
By and large, though, gay men often act like little boys with forts in the backyard. That’s their turf, and women who come into gay bars are kind of invading gay guys’ little clubs. Legally, there’s nothing that the bars can do to deny public accommodation to these women…but the customers can glare and glower and make snide and catty remarks. Depending on the gays in a bar, that could involve guys telling the women they “need to douche” or saying the women smell like “fish”…that sort of vagina-based verbal assault on women that gays specialize in. For drag queens, the ones that are especially passable as women are called “fishy” for this reason…and “to serve fish” is for a drag queen to get dressed up to particularly look like an actual woman, and not a man dressed as a woman.
2. QUESTION: How much money do guys in the nightlife industry make in Chicago?
ANSWER: Not as much as you think. But there are lots of different roles in the nightlife world, and each bar or venue is a little different.
Bartenders at a very successful gay bar would probably make $50,000 or so a year, almost all of that unreported to the government. Gay bars do this thing where they have employees claim just $5 or $10 a day in tips on their FISA forms…but the guys make hundreds of dollars more than that a day. They have no fear of the IRS ever auditing them, though, because they are gay businesses and Democrats would never allow that. Even that bar Cocktail that I mentioned before stopped paying its taxes entirely, I think because the bar’s owner decided that he just didn’t need to do that since it was a gay business. The City closed him down once…and then said, “Oh, be good now!” and let him reopen again. But he still wouldn’t pay the taxes and they closed him down again. Then they said “Have you learned your lesson?” and they gave him a second, third, fourth, fifth, and eleventy-eth chance after that…and finally the guy just shut the bar down for good. The space has now reopened as a bar called “Progress”…which is hilarious, because the joke on Halsted is that “Will progress include paying any taxes ever this time?”. I don’t know if it’s the same owner and the staff there won’t talk about who’s running the bar.
At middling, less-crowded bars I bet the bartenders in Chicago in 2013 make around $35,000 or maybe $40,000 tops. That’s based on what my friends in the industry have told me and also what I observe of the sort of lifestyles these guys live. Few of them own their own apartments…and almost all of them have roommates, even into their 50s and 60s. Some of them even have other jobs, like being firemen or school teachers or working for a temp service or something. No one is getting rich bartending in gay bars…but it’s the sort of job that people kind of fall into if they love to drink and they enjoy being out all night and working in an office is just not for them.
The security guys and barbacks (bartending assistants) make very little, and are often paid a combination of hourly wage plus a cut of the nightly tips. I think they’d all be around $25,000/year more or less in Boystown. Income for all bar positions fluctuates wildly though. The summer brings in the most money…because people are out, it stays light longer, and guys just love drinking all summer when the weather is so briefly gorgeous in Chicago. In the winter, few people want to go out in the bitter cold and revenues drop in bars across the board.
The male strippers in Boystown are an interesting bunch…who are the most open and honest about what they make. ALL of their money is off the record and in the form of cash tips, with none of it tied at all to any sales…and thus the IRS has no way of ever even guessing how much the strippers are making (unlike waiters or waitress or even bartenders, where the IRS could say “you should have gotten at least 15% of your night’s sales in tips”). With strippers, whatever is stuffed into their jockstraps is money the IRS doesn’t have easy knowledge about (unless there are IRS agents doing the stuffing…which no doubt there are, since an awful lot of government workers frequent male strip clubs…which makes these places so great to get political scoops). I think most strippers seem to make around $30,000…but obviously the better looking ones make more than the tragic cases.
Strippers who also prostitute themselves make the most. There’s also this thing here in Chicago called ModelMayhem.com, where guys sell themselves online as “nude models” or whatever. I think they have this in other cities, but about 80% of guys who work in the bars in Boystown have ModelMayhem accounts…and I think they make themselves available to bar patrons after hours via that site. This is all off-the-record money, too.
Something really interesting has happened to porn actors in recent years…in that they’re not making hardly any money these days. Amateur porn sites like XTube or GayTube have really gutted the porn industry, because average people who are exhibitionists are now posting nudey videos of themselves online…so people just go to those sites and watch as much porn as they want for free. Guys 50 and over buy porn DVDS (with guys like 70 and over probably still into video cassettes)…but younger guys (say, 40 and below) just watch everything streaming online. There’s a really famous porn actor named Zeb Atlas who is a big muscle guy….and he started off making only straight porn, but when he could not make enough doing that he switched to gay porn. Now, I think he’s also doing “escorting”…which is prostitution. One of the gay papers in Chicago recently ran a story about how porn “stars” can make as much as $120k a year…but only if they “escort” on the side too. It used to be that guys were paid thousands of dollars for appearing in a few porn scenes…but now they’d get a couple hundred bucks, because the demand for those DVDs has really gone down.
People talk about newspapers and magazines going under because of the Internet and people’s desire for free online content…but the porn industry is collapsing too, since everything’s going digital and amateurs are willing to give away for free what the professionals used to be paid fortunes for. I know, you probably aren’t losing any sleep or crying about this…but it’s still an interesting facet of our world changing that the State Media will probably never talk about.
ODDS & ENDS: Here are some of the big stories being pushed on Drudge Report today:
*Paula Deen has been dropped by Smithfield Hams and apparently QVC as well. This is because of her being called a “Ray Ciss” because she admitted to using the word “nigger” 30 years ago. Meanwhile, no black person ANYWHERE is being fired or dropped for anything…and black people say “nigger” all the time, left and right. I seriously need to sit down and make a list of about 10 black people who have used politically correct language at any time in their lives…including saying the word “nigger”…and demand that all those people be fired too. This is how conservative people need to respond when the Left fires up the Alinsky “Ray Ciss” Death Star and aims it at someone. Who are some black people you know of in the celebrity world who have ever been politically correct at any time in their lives? Let’s demand they all be dropped from sponsorships and receive a little Paula Deen treatment too. Fair is fair.
* Edward Snowden is on the run! He’s evading authorities like he’s Jason Bourne and James Bond rolled into one! Doesn’t this strike any of you as suspicious? Yes, the guy worked for the NSA…but nowhere is it stated he was field agent trained or is some sort of super genius. I think there’s a deliberate misinformation game at play here…and the purpose is to make this young traitor into some sort of antihero. The more he runs and escapes the authorities the sexier the story becomes. My gut is to say this is all to distract from the IRS persecution scandal…because what harm has really come to the NSA with all of this being exposed? Around the world, people are now terrified that the US government has near-magical powers to spy on all of them. Couldn’t that actually hinder a lot of terrorist plots…if it’s made Muslims paranoid into believing everything is bugged? Maybe the NSA program really isn’t all that effective…but making people afraid of the program achieves the desired result. Remember Alinsky Rule #9: the threat is usually more terrifying than the thing itself.
* The Girl Scouts are in trouble because they have a near $400 million pension deficit. They also recently removed “God” from one of the oaths that they take as scouts. I say let them fend for themselves then…and good luck solving that deficit, dummies. I think all of these once traditional American organizations have been fully infiltrated by the Left…and that it is an effort to destroy all of them from within. I think the Catholic Church has been infiltrated as well. We all know the public school system was lost a long time ago. It’s tempting to be depressed about things like this…but we’re all better than that. Put the energy you feel going towards sadness or malaise and find a way to divert it into something positive. Start thinking about simple ways you can go a little outside your traditional wheelhouse to spread the word that the Left is systematically destroying everything in this country…in a longterm attempt to wipe out American culture and replace it with something unrecognizable.
* One thing being lost in all this talk about the Amnesty bill that Marco Rubio is pushing is that there’s no way we should allow bills to be thousands-of-pages long behemoths. I never hear anyone talking about this…but why do bills need to be thousands of pages long…and voted on before anyone has even read them? Shouldn’t this be illegal? Something as complicated as changing our immigration system should not be rushed at full speed by people who don’t know what they are doing, especially since the laws on the books currently are never even followed. Making a new law that no one has read will not help this situation. How do we restrain Congress and force it to pass only smaller bills that have been read and thoroughly understood before passage? The problem right now is that Congress is out of control and every day finds a new way to do something outrageous. Maybe we really will need to have a Second American Revolution at some point, with people taking back power from Washington. I think there should be prison sentences for any Senator or Representative who votes on a bill without reading it and fully understanding it. Start sending some of these elites to jail for dereliction of duty and Washington would be a much better place…and I think only people who really were good at this work and really wanted to work in the jobs would run for office. Hold them accountable with more than just challenges to their re-election…hold them accountable with prison terms if they do any harm to their constituents while in office because of their gross incompetence. I know it will never happen…but sometimes just talking about things like this openly makes the Congress Critters nervous enough to start behaving for a while.
QUESTION FOR COMMENTS: What questions do you have about any of the above…or about the gay community in general, during this “Pride Month”? Ask below.
What else is on your minds this Monday June 24th, 2013?
– Open Thread –
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Today is the second-to-last Sunday in June…which means that the Pride Parade in Chicago will be next week. Since the major Pride Parades in New York and San Francisco are also the last Sundays of June, you’re going to hear a lot about the “gay community” between now and then…so keep a lookout for anything the State Media runs in terms of stories about gay people being constantly victimized by Christians or conservatives. Wherever you find these lies, I hope our monthlong look at the bad things the gay community does to others will give you some ammunition to fire back at the State Media and inform others out there that gay people are not the innocent little victims they claim to be. In reality, equality has really been achieved and the former victims are now most often the victimizers of others.
Here are some more questions from readers about bad things that the “gay community” does to others:
1. QUESTION: Why do so many guys prance around in underwear or speedos during the pride parades? Why do they have to do that?
ANSWER: If you got it, that’s the day to flaunt it. It’s like “Why are there big breasted women in gold lame bikinis in rap videos?”. Because the rappers love that and want them there. The people paying for the floats want go-go-boys up there wearing the legal minimum in clothing…and so it happens for Pride Parade. I think if you look at it in big picture terms then Pride Parade is really one of the only events on the American calendar where men are openly objectified as sexual objects and beefcake…as opposed to what women get all the time.
In Chicago, the City has some pretty hilarious statutes for what’s acceptable in terms of public nudity; they strictly enforce these during the Pride Parade too, and will literally pull guys off floats if they violate the statutes. Jockstraps are banned because they don’t cover anything in the rear…but a G-string would be acceptable (even though it technically reveals MORE than a jock does) because there is a thin piece of material that flosses between the glutes. Most people on the floats will be wearing colorful underpants from American Apparel or Speedos though.
A lot of the guys dancing barely-dressed on the floats are office workers, dentists, architects, policemen, you name it…people who don’t work in the nightlife industry at all 364 days a year, but get their freak on during the Pride Parade. These guys spend hours a day in the gym every day to be able to look good enough in a Speedo to pull off dancing on the Pride Parade floats. It’s a really big deal for them…and they look forward to and plan for this event all year.
I don’t think they really care who is in the crowd and they aren’t doing this to send any kind of political message or make any sort of statement…this is just about being out in the sun, dancing in almost nothing, and exhibiting their buff bodies. Emotionally for them, it’s a celebration of being good-looking, young (at whatever age they’ve adjusted “young” to be the older they get), and healthy that day. Some of the guys up there have HIV and the longer they have it the more they get into the Pride Parade…because this might be the last year that their bodies cooperate with them and allow them to look good enough to be on a float. So, there’s a lot of have fun in the moment while it lasts attitude with this.
It’s not about you. Or anyone else who could be watching. It’s just about them showing off, celebrating themselves, and essentially becoming kind of like a Hellenic festival in honor of Helios, Eros, Dionysus, and Narcissus. I think if anyone was time-traveled back from ancient Greece or Rome and deposited at the corner of Halsted & Belmont next Sunday that person would feel very much at home with what they see at the Pride Parade…because the ancient Greek athletes competed in the original Olympics in the nude, in much the same spirit as you see the almost-nudity on display at Pride.
2. QUESTION: If you could magically become straight, would you do it?
ANSWER: Hell to the no. Um, have you seen Magic Mike?
Yah, that’s all kinds of awesome right there.
I love being who I am, and liking guys is part of that. I have very dark hair and features and when I was in my teens I got it into my head that I wanted to have light brown hair or blonde hair like most of my classmates. I think some jerk called me a “pirate” and said I looked “swarthy”, which must have been a bad thing to be called in 1990s northeastern Ohio. So, I talked my mother into letting me get my hair colored…and it was an unmitigated disaster. It turned orange, and I had to keep it that way for a full week before the colorist would dye it back to black for me. I never, ever wanted to change myself just for the sake of changing myself again after that. I kind of hope to this day that my mother told the stylist to purposefully mess up the dye job so that I’d never want to have that done again. She probably didn’t think to do that, but I like imagining my mother in heroic terms and this is something I want to grant her.
I think being gay is part of who I am, as much as my hair color, height, body type, and everything else biological about me. Being gay is part of my “wiring”, just like the fact I love to read and that I treat every trip outside of the house as an opportunity to land a major story (with my pen and notepad at the ready and my eyes peeled for anything interesting to write about). I actually think I owe every success in life to being gay and the things I learned from boyfriends I’ve had…who, on the whole, have been a pretty remarkable and awesome bunch. I’m very proud of the fact that of the 16 or so boyfriends I’ve had only two have been bad apples who caused me more bad drama than good experiences. The rest were awesome, and I can’t imagine the person I would be today if they hadn’t been a part of my life when they were and hadn’t given me the best they had to offer at that time in my life.
I would have missed all that if I had been straight. Here in 2013, I think there’s a lot of things that I do that are important that I wouldn’t be able to do if I hadn’t been gay…and if, just say, right now in an alternate universe there is a straight version of me who never left Cleveland and who has a wife and two kids and lives in a little house in the suburbs there. I wish that guy well in his alternate dimension, but I’ve never once wanted to be him…and never wanted to be anything than what I am right here, right now. I absolutely love my life. There is never a dull moment. I often have no idea where rent money is going to come from or how bills will be paid…but then I land another good freelancing gig and we’re all set for a while. Whenever I run an errand and end up in a part of town I don’t normally venture in, I almost always stumble on something that ends up being a huge story that nobody’s ever cracked before…and then I sit back and watch that information ripple through the Interwebz and get people talking about some issue they never thought about before. I just love that. And it’s so much fun to talk to a friend of mine and say “Remember that apartment building you wanted me to check out for your daughter? Well, while I was doing that I happened to catch so-and-so doing such-and-such and it made me write this…”.
If I was straight, I wouldn’t be able to do any of this as much because I’d be worried about taking care of a family and securing kids’ college educations and all of that. I never had to worry about those things, so I was able to develop differently and play another role in society. I don’t have the same fears that straight guys have because almost no one has ever depended on me being around for a long time. Being gay made me both disposable and indispensable almost simultaneously…since I can do a lot of things that straight guys can’t do because of these logistics.
I would have made a terrible father, by the way. I just have no interest at all in sports or the other things that dads are supposed to teach sons to socialize them properly and prepare them for life in American culture. I don’t get the point of games like baseball, football, or basketball. They just seem dumb to me. And when it would come to things like helping with a science fair project or whatever, a kid would so easily play me into just doing it for him or her. My boyfriend Justin manipulates me like this all the time; if he starts something and messes it up, he knows I’ll finish whatever I’m doing and then take over the other thing from him, if he cuts himself or breaks something or makes a mess or whatever. I don’t even realize this is happening until I’m almost done…and I see Justin back in the bedroom playing video games while I’m washing all the dishes or whatever. I still haven’t decided if that’s him being a genius at getting out of chores…or if I just can’t help myself and end up doing whatever needs to be done, because that’s in my DNA now from all my years working at hotels and being an event planner and I’m just so trained to jump in and take care of whatever task is at hand.
There sure wouldn’t be any time for me to be involved in politics if I had kids to raise. There’s so many fewer hours in the day living with Justin than there were when I was single. And Justin’s a grown man, albeit one that requires a lot of attention and high maintenance. If I had kids to take care of I’d be even more limited with my time…and I don’t think I’d be as effective in anything that I did. Resentment would abound for everyone at that point.
I don’t know why some people are gay and some aren’t…but I can tell you that it’s neither a choice nor something that parents “do” to a kid growing up. The way my parents raised me I should have totally turned out straight and been still living in a suburb of Cleveland right now…but here I am in Chicago having my little adventures and I can look back to my earliest memories and see that this was in fact the logical and expected outcome for me. God makes no mistakes…and I believe that everyone is called to his or her individual vocation for a reason. This was mine…because I seem to be on this Earth to tip the scales here and there on matters that wouldn’t otherwise get attention and like to imagine that my ultimate destiny is to bring down the institutional Left by undermining it with its own tactics. Maybe only a gay conservative guy from Cleveland could do that…and so I was born who I am and called to this role in this particular moment in time.
ODDS & ENDS:
Let’s have a look at a few stories that Drudge Report is featuring today.
Traitor Snowden Lands in Moscow – I want you to really pay attention to all efforts by the State Media to imply this kid was some sort of Chinese or Russian agent. He wasn’t. Here’ the deal with Snowden: he’s a Millennial, and part of the “Me, Me, Me Generation”. That means he has no respect for anything and believes himself to be the most important person who has ever existed in the history of everything. He sets his life up with him at the pinnacle of a pyramid, and everything else…including country, friends, family, God, whatever…below that (probably in that order). This is what the public schools have been teaching these kids to do since the 1970s, along with instructing them that America is bad and evil and should be destroyed. Is it no surprise, then, that when these kids grow up and get government jobs that they behave this way…and they think they have some sort of duty to steal secrets from the government and release them to the public just because they can? You’re going to see a lot more of this as the Millennials get older and work their way higher in the ranks of intelligence agencies, the military, etc. Theirs is a generation that knows no loyalty to anything but themselves…and the end result is going to be trouble for all of us. They also seem to think that saying “Sorry” or “My bad” is enough to smooth everything away, always, no matter what they do…since they don’t really understand consequences for bad behavior. Their parents always made the consequences go away for them and they as grown men and women still don’t know how to function without mommy and daddy being there. I think public school educated people should be banned from ever working for the CIA, NSA, FBI etc. because we just can’t trust these Millennials in important positions…since their entire childhoods were spent being indoctrinated by the institutional Left to hate this country. They are a generation of sleeper agents.
Hastings sent email saying he had to go off the radar hours before he was murdered. If you don’t see that the government murdered Michael Hastings then there is something wrong with you. This is the kind of thing that happens all the time in John Grisham, Brad Thor, and Tom Clancy books…because Grisham, Thor, and Clancy know people in the government who tell them that, YES, this is how the government kills people. Start paying attention to the number of Navy SEALs involved with the bin Laden operation who are also mysteriously being killed in all sorts of “accidents”. Either these guys know something about what really happened to bin Laden (such as him really being dead for years or him maybe even being still alive and in custody today) or they’re being knocked off because the Saudis want everyone involved in killing a member of the bin Laden family to be executed. Something fishy is going on, but no one will report on it because if you write about this then people call you a conspiracy nut. But cars don’t just explode in “fiery one car crashes” and Navy SEALs don’t just start mysteriously dying in bizarre “accidents”. This is our government doing these things…and it’s getting away with it because regular people are so afraid to talk about any of it.
YAHOO posted story calling Kenya Obama’s birthplace. Here’s the thing that’s going to happen in the future with Barack Obama. Maybe 15 or 20 years from now, when he’s established himself as the new Jimmy Carter (in terms of being an ex-president who gleefully defecates on the United States every chance he gets, like Carter does now) he will not be able to resist telling the truth about all the things he got away with for all of these years. What people don’t seem to understand today is that Obama used various lies and false identities through the years to advance himself both personally and politically. When he was younger, he would write down whatever he needed to put down on an application form to be accepted into an Ivy League school. If that meant saying he was an Indonesian citizen and his named was Soetorobakh Soetoro, he’d do it. Later, he’d say he was born in Kenya to get another grant or scholarship or whatever. The next day, he’d say he was from Kansas if he felt that would get him into some club or the good graces of someone with deep pockets who wanted to help someone like him. There are tons of white people who feel good about themselves for “helping” mixed-race or black people…like they are feeding squirrels or rabbits stale popcorn at a park. Obama expertly played all of these dummies, by constantly changing his backstory to suit whatever need he had at the time for money, influence, and power. Depending on which period of his life is being talked about, the people in it know a different version of his backstory…which is why these people are never interviewed for the same article and in fact are never allowed in the same room together. One day, when he’s out of office, he will also not be able to resist announcing that he is Muslim…and was the first Muslim US president. He will dine off that for the rest of his life in the Middle East, all the while giving a big F-U to the American people. This is something at the heart of Islam, this pretending to not be Muslim in order to score some big win for Islam down the road. When it’s of maximum advantage to him, he’ll reveal his true nature…because he will not be able to resist the thrill this will give him to be able to gloat over how much he got away with his entire life. Remember that movie Catch Me If You Can with Leonardo DiCaprio? That’s based on a real life person…who fooled Pan Am, the US government, and all sorts of people for a very long time…and after he was finally caught he’s lived a very nice life trading off all the stuff he got away with, because people find it amusing. That’s how Muslims will treat the Great Deceiver Barack Obama as well. After being the POTUS, he’ll seek greater fame and reverence in being a cult figure to Muslims…for having so completely deceived and bamboozled the West. Just you watch.
Facebook angers users again with “shadow profiles”. I really wonder what’s going to happen to Facebook. Justin has some friends who are much younger than him and are still in college. They’ve all switched to just using Twitter to communicate with each other. They share photos on Instagram and on Tumblr…and they message each other via Twitter somehow. I don’t really understand that, because I believe anyone can read Twitter feeds so I’d think that saying “I’ll be at the restaurant at 8pm” is just an invitation for a stalker to meet you there…but maybe college kids don’t think about stalkers taking advantage of Twitter’s open nature. To me, Twitter is like writing things on a bathroom wall and you have no idea who is reading that. At least with Facebook things that people post on their walls can be restricted to just “friends”…and people have the ability to limit who is defined as a friend. I still don’t understand why Facebook is valued at so many billions of dollars…and I don’t see how the ads on Facebook do the companies purchasing them any good. What I think is happening is that a lot of stupid people in middle management at various entities have convinced their 60 and 70-something year old bosses in the C-suite that “Facebook is the future!” and, not knowing much about pop culture or technology, those executives believed these younger, 30-something managers. Raises and promotions all around! You discovered the key to the future…and it is this thing we don’t understand! Let’s buy all the stock in that thing we can! Idiots. I used to work for a big consulting company here in Chicago and people really were that stupid there. On one hand, these guys were still using fax machines because they couldn’t figure out email…yet, if you said “green technology” or “LEED certified” to them their eyes would get as big as saucers and you could honestly sell them on any ridiculous waste of money imaginable, so long as they could put on the website that they were investing in “green”. That was the buzzword back then…and now it seems to be “Facebook”. As in, “We’re on Facebook!” or “We’re advertising on Facebook!”. Everyone applauds at the corporate retreat and not one of these dummies has any idea that both “green” and “Facebook” are really oversold as concepts to be rushing to be a part of.
QUESTION FOR COMMENTS: What are things you’re seeing in the state media related to Gay Pride Parades and issues in the “gay community”? Can you analyze the coverage you are seeing and determine the media’s agenda in this? There’s always an agenda with everything you see on the tee-vee, since the tee-vee lies to you.
What else is on your mind for this Sunday June 23rd, 2013?
[ Click above to embiggen: what’s something important for today in 2013? ]
Continuing our “Pride Month” look at various reader questions about the bad things gay people do or areas of the “gay community” that the State Media will never report on, here are a few more topics for you:
1. QUESTION: Did you see the article on The Blaze yesterday about two lesbians who complained about a “wedding” gift they received? What’s your take on that and what is appropriate behavior for a “gay wedding”?
ANSWER: The article mentioned above is this one: “The-knock-down-drag-out-text-feud-over-a-wedding-present-you-have-to-read-to-believe” by Dave Urbanski, published 6/20/2013..about a pair of lesbians who were “married” in Canada (I think)…but who had absolutely no sense of manners (which is really surprising for Canadians, whom I did not think behaved this way…but people in the “gay community” as a rule tend to be nastier and more materialistic than the general public for some reason).
Essentially, someone who attended the wedding bought the couple (identified as Bride #1 and Bride #2) what I consider a very nice gift basket…with all kinds of gourmet things and some fun stuff like marshmallow fluff and sour patch kids. The materialistic lesbians were very rude to the gift-giver(s) and sent a string of increasingly more hostile Facebook messages about how they would have rather had cash “in an envelope”. Towards the end of the heated exchange the lesbians mouthed off about how much money they spent per plate for their wedding ($97 a plate!) and how they valued the gift basket at only $30 (implying the gift-givers were cheap).
It’s not like the gift basket was from the drug store and filled with things like toothbrushes, broken glass, mouthwash, Elmer’s glue, rubber gloves, and adult diapers or anything. THAT would have been inappropriate and something worth bitching and moaning about…but the gift basket in question had a lot of gourmet things in it, along with fun stuff that the gift-givers honestly believed the angry lesbians would have enjoyed. Though, since it’s something I would have done, I do wonder if the sour patch kids were some sort of inside joke about these particular women having sour dispositions…because they clearly aren’t pleasant people and those candies indeed seem to suit them.
Now, I used to be an event planner and one of my first gigs ever was planning a lesbian commitment ceremony in Cleveland in the late-90s. I can assure you that not all lesbians behave like the ones in the Blaze story. I’m actually really shocked reading this on The Blaze because no lesbian I have ever known has behaved this way…and it sounds more like what a pair of gay guys would do. I think stereotypes are pretty accurate most of the time and catch on because groups of people really do behave in particular ways…so maybe in Canada lesbians don’t have the decency that I’ve seen gay women almost always show here in the States. I can tell you that when I planned that commitment ceremony the two women were incredibly kind and generous…and in fact specifically said that they wanted no gifts of any kind from anyone; instead, they asked that donations be made to the Susan Komen breast cancer research initiative.
That commitment ceremony was a hoot. They held it at the fanciest hotel in Cleveland (okay, the only fancy hotel in Cleveland) but insisted it be a “Hoe Down” theme…so the guests were told to wear jeans and plaid or checkered shirts and cowboy hats. There was a petting zoo with goats, rabbits, and chickens for photo ops and the couple paid a huge fee to the hotel to allow barbeque flown in from Memphis to be served at the reception. One woman wore a white cowgirl outfit (which made her look like Dale Evans) and the other dressed up in black Western gear (and looked a lot like k.d. lang). They tipped extravagantly and were so incredibly kind to everyone on staff at the hotel. All the guests had a marvelous time and to this day it’s one of the best events I’ve ever been to or been a part of.
I’m horrified to learn that the lesbians featured in The Blaze article behaved so poorly when receiving a gift because I was always taught that you should be grateful whatever anyone gives you. In grade school, the nuns drilled into us the story of the old woman in the temple who gave a small amount of money in the collection…while a wealthy man bragged about how he’d given 100 times more than the old woman. This was one of Jesus’ parables, and he noted that the wealthy man was actually worth many hundreds of times that of the old woman…but gave a smaller percentage of her savings than he did. So, in reality that donation of his cost him very little in the big picture but what the old woman gave meant she’d have to skip meals and go without heat for a spell…since it was a true sacrifice to her while the rich man would never miss the amount he contributed.
It’s tacky to ever complain about something a person gave you…because somebody should have raised you better. It truly is the thought that counts. That being said, I don’t know if I can put into words how thrilled I would have been to get the gift basket described in The Blaze article. I love gift baskets like that. I worked for a consulting firm years ago and all the various subcontractors we dealt with would send our office all sorts of baskets of Pepperidge Farms or Cookie Company gift baskets and everyone who worked there was excited to see what new and unusual goodies were in the baskets. We’d open one of those every few days and would all snack on it on breaks. It was just heavenly.
Not only do I think the lesbians in the story are trashy for complaining about the gift basket but I think they are spoiled fools for not loving the collection of goodies that were handed to them. Channeling some Mr. T. this morning, I pity those fools. If you can’t appreciate the sublime thrill of a gift basket with all sorts of fun stuff in it then something is clinically wrong with you. Seek help immediately.
I think anyone who gives a party of any kind expecting to make a profit is a horrible person. The reason you throw a party is to celebrate some event…and the reason you invite people to your party is to have those you love celebrate with you. This is not your turn to stage a fundraiser for yourself…and it was YOUR choice to spend X or Y on the food, decorations, and other things that went into the party. As a former event planner what I found most irksome about the lesbians’ complaining is that they kept saying “We spent $97 per person on the food!”. People who quote prices to others like this are irredeemable trash and should never be permitted to host another event again. Telling people how much you spent per plate for a party is like a magician giving away the secrets to a famous trick; you just don’t do things like this. And you never, ever make someone feel bad or guilty about attending a party you invited him or her to by explicitly stating what that person’s attendance cost you.
This is behavior I’d expect from an ignorant and mannerless kindergartener at her birthday party…not from grown women who claim they are mature and responsible enough to be getting “married”. I wish their mothers had been there to spank these two silly for their ill behavior…regardless of how old they are!
I read a lot of Greek mythology when I was in grade school because our student library had this gorgeous book of myths by Ingri and Edgar Parin D’Aulaires [ click here to check it out: www.amazon.com ]…and several of the stories in that book were parable-like in that they warned readers to never break the rules of hospitality…because Zeus, Hera, Athena, or Hermes were always out and about testing people’s manners and hospitality (especially to strangers and travelers). Disney’s version of Beauty & the Beast had an element of this too, because the titular beast was transformed into an animal because (at the age of 11) he was rude to a scary-looking beggar who came to his castle door late at night in a rain storm (which is just messed up, because I don’t think at 36 I’d be comfortable opening a door to a stranger in a storm myself). On top of all this, when I was in college I worked for the Ritz-Carlton hotel chain and later dated a guy who worked for the Disney Parks…so I take respect for hospitality very seriously when it comes to people you invite into your home or to a party you’ve thrown.
It’s really sickening to me to think of how hurt the gift-givers were that these lesbians were so rude to them. I’m old enough now to have seen numerous examples of people like this getting the “what goes around, comes around” treatment. I bet if The Blaze did a follow-up story in six months or a year that these two lesbians wouldn’t even be together anymore. Nasty people like this that are rotten in their hearts attract negative energy…and that will slowly tear down their lives. Because they are so greedy, I bet they’ll end up having money problems and their relationship will hit the rocks over it. Somewhere I’m sure, Hera will be smiling as just desserts are served with a chaser of marshmallow fluff and sour patch kids.
If you are invited to any event — be it a “gay wedding”, a birthday party for a cat or dog, a Halloween party, or whatever — you bring something that YOU want to give as YOUR gift to the host/honoree. If you think it’s appropriate because in your heart you believe the person will like it and that it is something meaningful for nice to you, then you did the right thing. It’s really about what’s in your heart at the time of gifting that matters…and it’s not about the price tag and how much you spent. Sing it, one-hit-wonder Jessie J:
2. QUESTION: With all the screaming and carrying-on for “gay marriage”, how long do gay relationships really last?
ANSWER: Well, that depends on if you’re talking about lesbians or gay men…because lesbians are light years better at relationships than male couples. I think I talked about this a little a few days ago, but there’s a gossip site I enjoy that covers gay life in Los Angeles that’s called WeHoConfidential. I have been working on a project in LA for the last couple of years and get out every so often…and WeHoConfidential helps me get an idea of how similar the scene in West Hollywood is to my own Boystown in Chicago. It’s amazing how the same ridiculously stupid gay drama happens on the west coast that plagues life here on the “north coast” (which is technically a term only used in Cleveland, but it’s what I always call the Great Lakes). WeHo is always making fun of “gay marriages” because their expiration dates come quicker than Whole Foods’ organic fruits.
A lot of male couples have been rushing off to New York or Massachusetts or Iowa or wherever to “get married”…without having any real respect for commitment. Shortly thereafter, they decide they want to keep hooking up…and then they break up…but now they have to hire lawyers to get the “marriage thing” removed from their lives. The actress Jane Lynch (who plays Sue Sylvester on tee-vee’s “Glee”) actually just announced her pending divorce from some woman she “married” not even two years ago (and I think she only did it because it was novel and suddenly legal in New York, so she could). I was really surprised by that, because lesbians are usually so sensible (when they aren’t grousing over sour patch kids at least)…and are more like Ellen the Generous and her “wife” Austi Spumonti (from “Arrested Development”). Jodie Foster was with a partner for many, many years but then cheated on her with some woman who worked for her production company…and then I don’t know what happened after that…but I think they are back together now (in my defense, a lot of lesbians look very similar because they go for that volleyball coach/Meredith Baxter Birney sort of look so I have trouble telling Jodie Foster’s old girlfriend from her new girlfriend from the recently-gay Meredith Baxter Birney). Queen Latifah has been with her girlfriend (a personal trainer) for many years now, but they aren’t “married” because Latifah still thinks she’s fooling people and has not come out. Robin Robinson from Good Morning America is supposedly going to get “married” to her longtime girlfriend some time this summer and come out herself on live tee-vee (if various entertainment sites are to be believed). Rosie O’Donnell was “married” for a while but whoever that woman she was with was, she came to her senesce and then I think a few other women have come and gone since then (Rosie’s apparently not so rosy to deal with). In general, lesbians are usually all about the commitment and don’t normally break up or cheat on each other…while gay men are pretty much all about the cheating and the hunting for new guys.
For some reason, lesbians are just usually more mature than gay guys…and I think they don’t like the hunt for new romantic conquests as much as men do. Maybe that’s a genetic programming thing, where males like to have sex with as many different people as possible…and society and females have managed to tame most straight men and keep them from straying. But, gay guys have no such societal pressure to be monogamous. In fact, the “gay community” encourages as much promiscuity as possible with gay guys…with the institutional Left really pushing this on gay men. Part of this is because I think Democrats want a lot of gay guys to be infected with HIV so they will depend on the government for medication (and, thus, they will keep voting Democrat because the DNC tells them that only Democrats will give them their meds) and the rest of it is because I think Democrats believe that if gay men settled down and had stable home lives they would have less disposable income to give away at Democrat fundraisers. Lesbians are notoriously cheap because they are always socking money away to buy a house or for retirement or Crocs or whatever…but gay guys spend every cent in a bar or to get the best table at the “must attend” fundraiser of the season…so Democrats really want to keep gay men in nonmonogamous relationships so those donation checks keep flowing.
And gay men are sadly very inclined to promiscuity…because it’s more fun than dealing with the same person all the time. Gay guys also start to feel old when they aren’t picking up a new guy to take to bed every night in the bars. I’ve known gay couples who were really good together who actually broke up just because they enjoyed dating so much and didn’t want to stop…and periodically they even date each other again, in between other short-term relationships. I know another gay couple named Robin and Jason who are both extremely handsome, smart, and successful (and nice) guys who had a commitment ceremony last year after being together for something like 8 years…but they have an open relationship and even bring home guys together for threesomes. Their relationship really works for them because they have their “marriage” but still hunt for fresh bedmates too. I don’t think I need to tell you that whenever they are on tee-vee or being interviewed in a gay magazine about making “gay marriage” legal in Illinois they conveniently leave out the part that they have an open relationship and engage in threesomes. I do think it’s dishonest of them to be pushing “marriage” for gays in this state when they aren’t monogamous (and that’s supposed to be a part of marriage)…but this is an instance where I think they’re both nice guys and forgive them for the hypocrisy because I think they just really love the attention of being interviewed and being used as the poster boys for “gay marriage” by groups like Equality Illinois. Life is short and if they are happy doing this, then I don’t fault them. They are playing a part for the cameras much like any actors or models would…regardless if they really take “marriage” seriously while screaming and shouting for it in the Democrat-controlled state of Illinois.
I think lesbian relationships usually last like five years or more on average and that most gay male relationships have a longevity of around two or three weeks. If guys actually last long enough that they move in together then they probably stay boyfriends for a year or two, maybe three. Jason and Robin are unusual because I think they are together for ten years or more at this point and have found a groove that works for them. Personally, my relationships with guys tend to be about three or four years when it’s a serious boyfriend where we live together. Justin and I met in 2010 but didn’t start officially living together until 2012 or so, for those curious. At this point, I don’t see that changing unless he does move back to Arkansas (which his mother CarolAnne is pushing for). I don’t think I’d want to live with a guy again after Justin, but I said that in the past after this guy Harvey and I broke up (having live together for about three years). Gay male relationships are just really hard and emotionally draining…and I think my work has suffered since Justin and I moved in together because I don’t have the time I used to have to get to everything I need to do in a day (since Justin wants a lot of attention and doesn’t respect when I am working…and those calls from his mom every day where they talk about their fears for hours result in Justin repeating everything to me for an additional several hours…which just drains all my energy). I’m still trying to strike that work/life balance and find a good groove with him…but he’s 26 and isn’t in the same stage of life that I am, being ten years his senior. I actually know a lot of straight couples who are almost word-for-word in the same boat as Justin and me…particularly those couples where one or both of them works from home or cyber commutes like Justin and I each do as freelancers. I don’t know if even straight people have figured out how to manage a relationship when two people are not separated for long stretches of the week by shifts in an office somewhere far from home. I do have faith and hope we’ll get this figured out in time, though…if Justin’s not convinced by his mom to move back to the woods surrounding Eureka Springs, that is.
I always get someone who will ask “Does Justin know you write about him?” or “Does CarolAnne read you?” and the answer is YES to both. I never, ever write about anything that’s a secret between us and I never, ever would write about his mom in a way that’s mean-spirited…but I write about my life because I think there are other people out there who are in similar situations who might benefit from knowing they are not alone. I think one of the reasons this country is now controlled by the institutional Left is because good people keep quiet about things too often…and they also don’t acknowledge the things bedeviling them. It’s a real problem right now in a lot of households that family members are being driven crazy worrying about all the insane things that Democrats are doing to the country in this The Golden Age of Hope and Change…and keeping quiet about what’s happening doesn’t do anyone any good. Maybe if we all talk about how emotionally and mentally fragile the news these days is making a lot of people we’ll all collectively reach a point where we do something to change that.
3. QUESTION: Did you see that Exodus International is shutting down? What did you think of the whole ex-gay rehabilitation concept thing?
ANSWER: As a matter of fact, I did see this…as well as the apology that Exodus issued for thinking that gay people could be turned straight. I think the people behind Exodus were always well-meaning idiots.
The thing is, if someone is gay then no amount of prayer or aversion therapy or hypnotism/magic is going to “cure” the person…because there is nothing ill to cure. Here in Chicago, there is a bar called The Lucky Horseshoe that I think is just trashy and fabulous…but there are so many old, grandpa-aged barflys in there who look so sad as they stare at the male strippers on the stage…because a lot of these guys were forced to get married and have kids while they really wanted to be gay fifty and sixty years ago. If you’ve never seen the movie Far From Heaven, you need to check that out [ click here to do so: www.amazon.com ] because Dennis Quaid plays a 1950s father of two who is gay but pretended to be straight because that was what was expected of him. That ends badly for everyone because he just couldn’t keep the delusion going forever. It’s horrifyingly sad that so many guys in the “Far From Heaven” days had to play make believe because their families or society made them.
I feel so lucky that I am a child of the 80s/teen of the 90s and that by the time I reached college I never had any pressure to play it straight and be forced into a heteronormative life I didn’t want. I know there are still guys who are having their midlife crisis here in 2013 and are currently imploding their families by coming out and leaving their wives to be with men they met on Craigslist…and that’s because everyone before the Millennial generation was still to some extent pressured to “Far From Heaven” themselves into these doomed marriages. If you ever want to see just how prevalent this is for yourself, go on Craigslist for your city and look under the Personals section for the Men-for-Men listings and then do a search for the word “married”…and you will see tons of married guys looking to hookup with each other while on business trips or while the wife is out shopping. A lot of married guys mess around while they are at the gym, too. Most wives must have some idea what their husbands are up to…but my heart breaks for the wives that have no clue at all that their husbands are gay and cheating on them with men. A few times, I’ve ran across guys who I know are married but are picking up other guys in bars in Boystown and if I can figure out who their wives are I email or write to them and let them know their husband is cheating. Justin says I’m going to be murdered one day for doing this, but if a guy is cheating on a woman with another guy I think she should know before he brings home HIV to her. That happens so often in the black community, especially, since there is such pressure on black men to not be gay that many of them acquire beards (like Michelle Obama) and play it straight on the down low. Unlike Michelle, a lot of these black women have no clue their husbands are gay…and that’s how a great many of these ladies get HIV. I don’t think I could live with the guilt if I ever knew a woman was being cheated on by a gay/bisexual husband and I didn’t warn her…and her not knowing led to her getting HIV. If someone’s life is at risk because the husband is cheating, then I don’t think it’s moral to keep quiet.
It’s interesting to me that Exodus International is folded just as the Millennial Generation is coming up in the ranks because this is a harbinger of a wider culture change in this country. Being gay is no longer something you whisper about, whch I think is a good thing. For those of you out there who don’t like Pride Month because you think that gays are obnoxious and flaunt their sexuality in your faces all June…I want to assure you that as the Millennials continue to rise in the ranks and 2013 becomes 2023 and beyond that the obnoxiousness of Pride will peter off. The in-your-face flaunting that goes on during the parades is really immature brattiness on the part of gays…who seize June as month to rebel and lash out at the Christian and conservative people that the Gaystapo leaders of the “gay community” claim are the enemies of gay people. Groups like Exodus International have long been seen as absolutely demonic by gays…even though in reality these groups did not have evil at heart when being organized…since I do believe the misguided people behind Exodus really thought they could “cure” gays and that being straight would make these guys happier. It doesn’t, but I think Exodus meant well…even though everyone involved were idiots. Bless their hearts. I’m rare in the gay community because I have never felt these people should be hated…but instead I just pitied them as clowns on the same level as those in tinfoil hats who might also try to teach their dogs to talk.
My boyfriend Justin’s parents actually tried to send him to Exodus when he came out in high school and he just laughed in their faces because the notion was so stupid; they backed down when Justin threatened to have himself legally emancipated at 16 (after which he swore he’d never speak to either of them again). Justin’s mom and dad admit today that the Exodus thing was dumb…but they meant well and thought Justin would be happier being straight. It’s funny, but once Justin’s sister Darcy had a baby last year all of this stuff has felt like ancient history in their family…because I think Justin’s parents just wanted to become grandparents and while they aren’t going to be marching in the PFLAG contingent at the Pride Parade in Little Rock any time soon, I think they’ve both mellowed to the fact that Justin lives with a guy and will probably always be doing that for the rest of his life. His parents are very nice to me and I’m nice to them in return, but I’m never going to be invited for their family holidays in Arkansas. The great thing is that I don’t especially want to go to Arkansas and I thus get to enjoy Christmas, Thanksgiving, Arbor Day, or whatever in the ways I did when I was single…so I kind of feel like I have a life that’s the best of all worlds because Justin doesn’t like doing the things I love doing during the holidays (which usually involves going to campy events, parties my friends throw, volunteering places, or taking oddball trips to places that are holiday themed or related). Justin and his family get to sit around together in Eureka Springs watching tee-vee on Christmas Eve and I get to be somewhere with a drag queen dressed as a bedazzled tree and go-go-boys dolled up as elves with Whitney Houston’s Christmas album playing on the speakers. Everybody wins!
You should actually be really happy today that Exodus is going away…because this is one less “villain” that the institutional Left will be able to trot out to rev up gays to hate on Christians and conservatives. The next several years are going to be FASCINATING, because the Left has always controlled gays with several highly emotionally charged things:
* Don’t Ask Don’t Tell and gay soldiers
* “Gay Marriage”
* Exodus International
* Hating Christians
* Hating specific Republicans (ie, George W. Bush, Ronald Reagan, Sarah Palin, Michele Bachmann, Jan Brewer…)
* HIV/AIDS and the need for expensive medicine
DADT is gone, so they lost that issue. “Gay Marriage” has now passed in 12 states (though Democrats have put the brakes on it in Illinois to keep the issue alive through the 2014 elections so gays will stay energized in the Democrat Party until it passes in this completely Democrat-controlled state). Exodus International has voluntarily shut down.
You see that Barack Obama has ginned up hatred for Catholics this past week, so the institutional Left’s clearly going to trade off an anti-Christian push for its fundraising leading up to 2014. You’ll also see the usual two-minutes-hates directed at the Republicans that gays are taught to gnash their teeth at like Emmanuel Goldstein. And I’ve been telling you that Democrats are encouraging a new explosion of HIV/AIDS because getting as many gay men infected and dependent on expensive medicine is the control mechanism devised by the institutional Left to keep gays on the Democrat plantation.
It’s sad that so many gays are useful idiots to the Left and don’t see how they are played by Democrats…but maybe as we keep talking about these issues word will start to spread that culturally gay people don’t have to stay this ignorant or gullible. If Exodus International can close down, then maybe gays can miraculously open up to the idea that voting Democrat is actually very bad for them.
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ODDS & ENDS: Here are a few things on Drudge Report that I think you might find interesting:
* Politicians and public figures were spied on by the NSA. I think we all need to talk openly about people like Lindsey Graham, Marco Rubio, and others who do things that will harm not only the Republican Party in the future but harm Americans today…because every time they do things like this I scream IT IS BECAUSE THEY ARE BEING BLACKMAILED. Graham is gay…and Democrats always threaten to out him whenever they want him to support something like amnesty for Mexican criminals. Republicans are the dumbest people in the world for not just dragging Lindsey Graham out of the closet (with his autographed photo of Bette Davis) because this man is blackmailed just about every other week to do something horrible to the country…all because Nancy Pelosi and Harry Reid have some evidence of him getting up to gay hijinks. I bet they got that from the NSA. Now, I have no idea what the Democrats have on Rubio or John McCain, come to think of it, but I can clearly see that Democrats are pulling their strings…and I bet the NSA provided the Left with the material to do that. Why aren’t conservative writers connecting the dots and asking: What did the NSA find on Graham, Rubio, McCain and others that is being exploited by the Left to get these guys to betray their country and party so often?
* Senator Ted Cruz is trying to stop “The Gang of Ocho” from ramming amnesty through. I really like this guy…but I have had my heart broken so often in the last five years that I don’t want to invest myself emotionally in him. He is exactly the sort of politician I always dream of rising to prominence…because like Allen West and Sarah Palin and Michele Bachmann and Rick Perry he is aggressive and forthright and he pulls no punches. THAT is how Americans should all be. But I’m cautious because Republicans are just so painfully stupid and will find a way to marginalize or destroy this man. The State Media is already trying…and I just hope he has smart enough people around him to stop that. I’d love him to be the Republican presidential nominee next year, with Allen West as his VP. That’s my 2016 dream ticket. And I just hope he doesn’t start going-along-to-get-along to appease the Cocktail Party so that he can win the nomination. We just had two Cocktail Party darlings in a row lose to Barack Obama and I don’t want to see a Democrat elected in 2016 (or ever again).
* Reporter Michael Hastings was murdered before he could talk to Wikileaks. You need to watch Season 5 of “Damages” with Glenn Close because it’s all about this. Seriously. It’s so eerie, and I have not seen a single conservative writer connect the dots…but in that show a woman (played by Jenna Elfman from “Dharma & Greg”) gives information to a Wikileaks-like group and is murdered for it. There’s no way that in the year 2013 someone’s engine just explodes…like what happened to Hastings. When you are done watching “Damages”, you need to also watch The Pelican Brief with Julia Roberts, based on the John Grisham novel of the same name. The government killed people with exploding cars in that movie/book too…because people were going to spill big secrets. I think the Obama Regime is stupid and clumsy enough to kill someone using an exploding car. Easily. No one will ever talk about or write about this, though, because people are so afraid of either being killed themselves or of their websites being obliterated or whatever…but Michael Hastings was murdered by our government before he could talk to Wikileaks. If you don’t see that yet, then please watch “Damages” and The Pelican Brief. And then come back and tell me I’m crazy. The bad news right now is that the United States government is fully controlled by the institutional Left and is being used against the American people. The GREAT news is that in doing this the Left is overplaying its hand and unwittingly setting the stage for its own destruction. The Left believes it has engineered a Munich Putsch and that it will control this control forever…but I think we’re reaching the tipping point where too many people are being murdered with exploding cars…too many reporters have their computers hacked…too many groups get intimidated by the IRS because they oppose Obama…too many other federal agencies go after ordinary Americans. Washington DC is not an imperial capital enthroning a Pharaoh…and Democrats right now have used the government to do more evil to American citizens than Nixon’s imperial presidency ever did. The collapse is coming for Democrats…though it’s just taking longer than most of us hoped or prayed it would. But it is coming because totalitarian regimes don’t last in countries as unique as America.
* Anthony Weiner does more sick and disgusting things in New York. I’d love to hear from you if you are currently in the City. Because I have such a hard time believing that New Yorkers will really make this man Mayor. The thing is, no matter what the State Media says, that when New Yorkers decide someone is gross or off-putting that person does not get what he or she wants…no matter what the Democrats want in the City. Princess Caroline Kennedy is an example of this. Democrats thought she could waltz into Hillary Clinton’s Senate seat with a fart and a smile…but she just kept doing one stupid thing or another and embarrassed herself all around town. She finally had to give up her bizarre power grab after having breakfast in Harlem with Al Sharpton and making faces at the black people in there when they served her food she was unfamiliar with (chicken and waffles, I think it was…which I either remember because it happened or I’m thinking about because it’s my all-time favorite thing ever). I don’t know how New Yorkers stopped Princess Caroline Kennedy from becoming a Senator but will gleefully make a walking penis joke the next Mayor. Maybe people will just be so happy that Bloomberg is gone that they’ll actually elect a total and complete
dick weiner. But, then explain to me why they were so tough on the Princess of Camelot? Is it a sexist thing…where a woman can’t be off-putting but a man can be complete slime and everyone is fine with that?
* Government using metadata to track you. My boyfriend Justin’s mother was all freaked out over this last night. It went something like this: “The government is using metadata to track me! Don’t ever save any documents to your computer!”. Justin and his mother talk about crazy stuff for hours, freaking each other out. He looks like this most of the time wandering around our apartment, with his mother convincing him even the toaster is plotting against him:
[ Click above to emjustin: that look on my boyfriend’s face after listening to all of his mother’s fears for 3-hours on a Thursday night ]
The thing is, I don’t know what documents CarolAnne has that the NSA is going to use against her. Metadata is a real thing…and it refers to this computer code that’s embedded in every Word document and email or whatever. A computer expert can go in and see every change you made in a document, for instance. Like, if I type the sentence “The Obama Regime is plorting againts you” but then go back and correct the spelling mistakes, metadata would show what I changed and when I changed it so that it finally read “The Obama Regime is plotting against you” when I last saved the document. I spent the last several hours trying to figure out how the NSA could use that against someone like CarolAnne. What is she possibly writing that they’d be interested in mining metadata for? I think she’s freaked out because “metadata” is such a scary word. I actually just now thought of this, too, but all of this Obama Regime/Fast & Furious/Pigford/Andrew Breitbart mysteriously dying/Voter Fraud/IRS persecution/Benghazi/NSA spying stuff has created a climate of fear and terror in this country unseen since the post Cuban Missile Crisis panic in the 1960s.
CarolAnne is as terrified of the US government right now as people were of Moscow while they were building bomb shelters and having meltdowns fretting about nuclear winter. I wish I had taken more psychology courses in college instead of useless foreign languages because I really think tens of millions of people are cracking up all around us from fear overload. And I just don’t know how to help them. My own boyfriend is a basket case for much of the day because his mother infects him with this extreme fear of the Obama Regime and I just can’t do a thing to stop any of it.
Conservative writers across the board need to start addressing the reality that the institutional Left really is getting millions of people to completely shutdown and disengage from scandal and terror fatigue. It’s kind of like what Muslims have been doing to Israel for decades…doing evil things, hurting lots of people, and making everyone terrified every day in hopes of wearing them down and exhausting them into giving up. I know this is really happening in America now…but I just don’t know what to do about it (yet). Maybe as friends we could come up with something together.
QUESTIONS FOR COMMENTS: What things do you want to know about the Left’s use of the “gay community”as a Gaystapo goon squad to attack Christians and conservatives?
What else is on your mind this Friday June 21st, 2013?
[ Click above to embiggen: what will be important for the year 2013? ]
Here’s another multi-part question about the “gay community” that readers have submitted for our month-long look at bad things gay people do to others that the State Media in this country will never, ever report on…seeing as how the narrative they push is that gay people are perpetual victims, much like black people. So, anything bad that a gay person does must always be ignored by the Ministry of Truth…just like how the State Media contorts itself like Plastic Man to avoid ever shining a light on the terrible things black people do.
A new study being pushed on Drudge Report today shows that only 23% of people in this country believe that what the newspapers and the tee-vee are telling them every day is even remotely true. Who are those 23 people out of 100 who think the State Media is trustworthy at all? Idiots. I swear to you, if it is the very last thing I ever do with my life, I am going to think of a way to get that number down to just 13% of the public believing a damn thing they hear on the tee-vee; newspapers I don’t have to worry about since those will be gone within my lifetime for sure (and probably the next five to ten years). The tee-vee is going to be around for much longer…even if it transitions to becoming an all-digital medium.
Over the next two weekends, various cities are going to be having their “Pride Parades” and the tee-vee is going to tell you how evil you are for judging the obnoxious behavior you will see on your screens; the tee-vee is lying to you, like always, because any nastiness or brattiness happening at any of these events is originating with gay people aiming that evil at others…but most especially Christians. The Pride Parades are not, in fact, occasions for gay people to celebrate “pride” in anything…but they are really just a very strategic weapon the Left uses to declare open war on Christians and conservatives for the entire month of June. They get away with it by showing a lot of rainbows on the tee-vee, or zooming in on hot guys dancing in their speedos a top floats to distract people. As lovely as rainbows and male strippers are (and I admit I’m a big fan), you need to always remember what the propagandists of the Left are really up to with “Pride Parage” coverage: it is ALL ABOUT furthering the Left’s agenda in the Culture Wars and continuing to convince Americans that being a Christian or a conservative is evil and that the various subgroups under the Democrats’ umbrella are all perpetual victims who need your sympathy. In reality, the roles are actually reversed…which you’ll see if you pay closer attention.
One thing in particular I want you to watch for, because it will happen in your state whenever the Pride Parade is held in YOUR biggest city: the tee-vee will show you a handful of random people holding up signs that read “God Hates Fags”…and then they will have a clip of either gay people or heterosexual members of PFLAG denouncing the “God Hates Fags” sign-holders. What the tee-vee never tells you is that the ones who are holding the “God Hates Fags” signs aren’t religious people at all…but in fact are actually either people hired off Craigslist by Leftist groups to be out there or they are members of unions like the SEIU. Those are Democrat operatives out there aping for the cameras so that the tee-vee can have a visual of Christians supposedly attacking gays. The thing is, these people only appear when the State Media wants to push the narrative of gays-as-victims. In Chicago alone, there are hundreds of events a year that these astroturfed “religious zealots” could be disrupting or protesting…but they ONLY show up for the Pride Parade coverage. Why is that? You’d think if they really believed in this “God Hates Fags” stuff that they’d be out every Saturday night in Boystown with their signs, trying to discourage people from patronizing all the bars and other gay businesses in town. But, they don’t do that.
It’s almost as if these “religious zealots” don’t actually exist and are just a cast of characters hired by elements of the institutional Left as some sort of stagecraft to push the desired narrative in June that gays are such victims. Now that I’ve told you to look for this, I hope you can watch for yourself and let me know if you can start seeing through some of the State Media’s deliberate and purposeful lying. The truth is out there if you would just only see it.
QUESTION: You’ve talked a lot lately about a group you call “The Gaystapo” but I don’t really understand who they are. Do they call themselves that or is it something you came up with? What do they do exactly and how are they organized?
ANSWER: I coined the term “The Gaystapo” here on HillBuzz.org in 2010 or so, because that’s around the time that I personally started receiving organized harassment from the “gay community” here in Chicago. Prior to this, I was vaguely aware of bad things that gays as a group would do to others…but I never thought much about how organized an effort this really is.
If you know my personal story of running this site, I used to write anonymously about politics because I live and work in a Leftist-controlled city and at the time I had a business that depended on consulting and freelancing for nonprofits. I still can’t get over the irony of this, but elements of the Left had been trying to “out” my real identity for two years to punish me for first of all supporting Hillary Clinton over Barack Obama in 2008…but then also for backing Sarah Palin and John McCain in the general election; the Left could never figure out my name…until a Cocktail Party Republican named Fran Eaton at the little-read website Illinois Review purposefully outed me for personal reasons (I think it was a favor she did on behalf of my ex-boyfriend, who is a particularly vengeful bisexual still trying to climb the ranks in the Republican Party in Illinois). So, the Left couldn’t do much to me until a Cocktail Party Republican like Fran Eaton helped them…which I think is one of the most telling anecdotes you will ever hear about why so much of the GOP is a very bad thing for this country.
Not long after Fran Eaton outed me as the principle author of HillBuzz, the “gay community” here in Chicago started harassing me…because they didn’t like what I was writing about the bad things “the community” does. Things really heated up in the summer of 2010 because Art Johnston — a man I’ve since identified as the primary Ayatoldja of the Gaystapo here in Chicago — plastered all of the windows of his business, Sidetrack the Video Bar, on Halsted with hateful, nasty signs that maligned Illinois gubernatorial candidate Bill Brady as “a bigot”. It was incredibly vile…and something that Johnston did just to rev up hatred in the “gay community” for both Brady and Christians…since Johnston also used any event held at Sidetrack to make or authorize speeches that told all the unthinking, useful idiot gays in attendance that “Bill Brady is evil!”…”Bill Brady is a crazy Christian!”…”Bill Brady wants to put you in concentration camps!”…and other such nonsense. I’ve told you before that the best way to describe what goes on at Sidetrack during one of these big events (attended by capacity crowds of about 1,200 gay men at a time (and like 5 women with low-self-esteem who hang around gay men like flies on mangos)) is to just refer you to the two-minutes-hates directed at Emmanuel Goldstein in the book/movie 1984:
[ Click above to play: and if you don’t already have a copy of 1984 the book or the movie, you need to get one today…www.amazon.com…and help continue to keep them in the Top 100 of purchases on Amazon to send a message to the State Media about how Americans feel about the IRS, NSA, Justice Department, and other Obama Regime abuses of power ]
The reason I call Art Johnston by the name “The Ayatoldja Johnston” is because he behaves much like the Ayatollah Khomeini did in Iran; Johnston regularly takes the stage at Sidetrack to condemn the “enemies of the gay community” with fatwas he issues, declaring this or that person (such as Bill Brady) a bigot or commanding the useful idiots and drunks assembled in Sidetrack to engage in jihad against other “traitors” and “quislings” (which would be me…and other gay Christians and conservatives out there who speak out against the evil things that the Ayatoldja Johnston does here in Chicago). The State Media enjoys claiming that that Art Johnston is an inductee of the “Chicago Gay & Lesbian Hall of Fame” and that he founded the organization Equality Illinois…but the Left’s propaganda wing doesn’t tell people that Equality Illinois regularly harasses religious people and is essentially just a sock puppet that spreads Johnston’s anti-Christian and anti-conservative messaging for Johnston.
It works like this:
* Art Johnston owns the largest gay bar in Chicago, which makes it probably the largest gay bar between New York and Los Angeles. Though it’s never won Best Gay Bar in the country in any survey I’m aware of, the place is actually quite gorgeous inside and remains extremely popular. Sidetrack is known for flaunting Illinois’ liquor laws by giving away every second or third drink for free…and Johnston never has to account for this because of the clout he has with politicians in this state.
* Attracted by the free drinks and the very beautiful interior of the bar, unsuspecting gays arrive at Sidetrack and receive anti-Christian and anti-conservative indoctrination during an evening at the bar. This is especially true during “Comedy Night” Thursdays when long blocs of virulently anti-Christian “comedy clips” are played that mock Catholics in particular (but never, ever saying a bad word about Muslims). Every event held at Sidetrack is MC-ed by Bradley Thomas Balof, a Chicago public school teacher who moonlights as a male erotic entertainer and also Sidetrack’s master-of-ceremonies; Balof revs up hatred for Christians every time he takes the microphone…and he serves as the Ayatoldja Johnston’s opening act, getting the crowd hungry for the red meat he’ll toss at them under the banner of Equality Illinois.
* The majority of events held at Sidetrack are in some way fundraisers for Equality Illinois…which is basically Art Johnston’s personal Public Action Committee. This is a very common tactic on the Left, to incorporate some sort of supposed non-profit that then does whatever a particular Leftist wants that thing to do…which allows that individual Leftist wiggle room to claim “it’s the organization doing it, not me!”. Another way to look at this is like what Hollywood actors do when they create their little vanity “production companies”; these are ways to move money around with less scrutiny than if they were just operating everything under their actual names.
* Johnston funnels revenue from Sidetrack into Equality Illinois and then uses Equality Illinois to attack Christians and conservatives throughout this state. In the process, he gains a lot of clout with politicians in Illinois such as Rahm Emanuel, Mike Madigan and his daughter Lisa Madigan, Anita Alvarez, Pat Quinn, Dick Durbin, and of course, Barack Obama. This covers the Ayatoldja Johntons’ butt when it comes to things like the liquor laws and also when it comes to mistreating and violating the civil rights of his employees (which he’s being currently sued for in federal court).
* No other bar in Chicago is operated this way and is so directly tied to a Political Action Committee like this. At the other taverns, clubs, and restaurants catering to gay clientele in Boystown there is no hatred being stirred up by the owners against anyone. Those other places are just about having a great time, drinking, dancing, listening to music, and (of course, for a gay bar) hooking up. But, at Sidetrack it’s like the drinking and the having fun is considered secondary to recruiting as many young, unsuspecting gays as possible into the cult of the Left…by the Ayatoldja Johnston CONSTANTLY pushing this “we must unite against our enemies!” Orwellian garbage all the time.
Art Johnston gets away with this for the same reason Sidetrack wins “Best Float!” every year in the annual Pride Parade (no matter how lackluster and amateur the effort): because money talks and the amount of cash that Johnston funnels into the Left via Sidetrack gives him clout enough to have anything he wants in this town. That means he also thinks rules and laws do not apply to him and that he cannot ever be criticized.
The State Media’s at fault for that, because all across the country there are people like Art Johnston who run the “gay community” in all big cities. There are people like this in Los Angeles, New York, Atlanta, New Orleans, San Francisco, DC, you name it. The men orchestrating the very organized efforts to malign, menace, and harass Christians and conservatives in the “gay community” across the board are what I call “The Gaystapo”. The specific people such as Johnston who are the leaders and funders of these efforts are the gay Ayatoldjas…since they are forever telling other gays the evil things they need to do “to (our) enemies!”.
Can you imagine if Christian or conservative business owners engaged in activities such as Art Johnston’s? The State Media would have those establishments shut down and RICO statutes would probably be applied against any people on the political right who were suspected of colluding against the Left and using their places of business to recruit goons and foot soldiers for their efforts.
But, since Art Johnston is gay and owns a gay bar and his recruitment and fundraising efforts are for a gay organization that hates Christians and conservatives the State Media will never speak a word about any of this.
The Gaystapo is a lot like the krysha that Jesse Jackson, Al Sharpton, Henry Gates and other “Justice Brothers” run in the “black community”; it’s a way for the Left to use specific minority groups as weapons against conservatives. For this sort of racket to succeed, the Gaystapo and the Justice Brothers must enforce strict adherence to the teachings of the Left in their respective “communities”. Any member of these minority groups who strays from the plantation must be destroyed.
With the Justice Brothers, this means regularly pummeling Condoleezza Rice, Allen West, Herman Cain, Ben Carson, Thomas Sowell, and other conservative blacks so a message is sent that if you are a black person who dares to vote Republican or voice conservative views then you will be annihilated. Remember that the State Media will never criticize a black Democrat for anything…and will in fact aggressively protect people like Maxine Waters, Charlie Rangle, John Lewis, James Clyburne, Eric Holder, and (of course) Barack Obama no matter what terrible things they do…because the members of the State Media were taught in journalism school by Leftist professors that blacks are useful tools for the Democrat Party who must always remain useful to Democrats.
Any blacks who don’t toe the party line are smashed to pieces as much as possible whenever the State Media can gin up an excuse to do so. Ann Coulter wrote a wonderful book that addresses some of this (which you can checkout here: www.amazon.com).
The EXACT SAME THING happens with gays…only instead of the Justice Brothers we have the Gaystapo enforcing obedience and allegiance to the Left and the Democrat Party. I think Democrats primarily use blacks as weapons to tear down Republicans and intimidate large corporations, since both of these groups are terrified of ever being called “Ray Ciss”. When the Justice Brothers rev blacks up to shout “Ray Ciss! Ray Ciss! Ray Ciss!” at somebody the end result is that conservatives stupidly abandon that person, for fear of being called “Ray Ciss” themselves. Idiots. For whatever reason, conservatives have still not figured out that the Left will continue to use blacks as weapons until such time as conservative people refuse to be afraid of the “Ray Ciss” theatrics and stop caving into these thugs and bullies all the time.
The Left uses gays as weapons against Christians, because destroying Christianity is a top priority for these lunatics. I don’t even think they know what they’d want to replace it with because at this point the driving forces on the Left are pure irrational hatred and a love of destruction for the sake of destruction…and Leftists themselves behave mostly like mentally ill children who just want to do as much damage as possible to “their enemies”. There’s actually a horror movie coming out later this year called “Cooties” that’s about grade schoolers who are infected with a rage virus and rip the adults in their school to shreds; it could have easily been filmed at the Democrats’ Convention in Charlotte last summer.
On a daily basis, the most frustrating thing about all of this is how unwilling Christian and conservative people are to band together to put an end to any of this nonsense. I wish some of you would either send me an email or comment below on this, but what the Hell are you so afraid of? The only reason bullies ever have any power is because YOU give them that power. Currently, the United States is an apartheid state that is being misgoverned by the Left…but Leftists are a clear minority of the American people. The only reason the Left holds power is because good people are too afraid to speak the truth and point fingers at Leftists and call their conduct unacceptable.
Sure, when you stand up to these bullies they lash out at you — don’t I know it — but after a while you realize that short of murdering you there is not much they can really do to stop you. Ultimately, you reach a point where you see that you can effectively use the Left’s own Alinsky Methods against them and they have absolutely no comeback.
I’ll let you in on a mind-blowing secret, but only if you promise to share it with everyone you know in the Republican Party: the only thing the Left actually has is the Alinsky Rule Book. Since it’s always worked for them, they have no Plan B. There are 13 Alinsky Rules for Radicals that Democrats use in some form every day against Republicans. This is like being in high school and a teacher giving you an open book test that has all the answers on the handout she passed out yesterday, but you for some strange reason flunk the test because you refused to look at what was clearly spelled out for you.
The only way to defeat the Left is to turn the Alinsky Rule Book back on them. They do not know what to do when someone pushes back and uses their own tactics against them. They rage, scratch, and claw…but they do so futily. I don’t think it’s especially fun to be on the receiving end of the harassment the “gay community” is currently aiming at me for writing about the bad things the Gaystapo does in Boystown…but I sure as Hell think it’s important to keep doing so. I figure the Left loses a little bit of power and control for every conservative or Christian out there who reads about the Gaystapo and starts realizing that they don’t have to be afraid of these thugs and bullies.
Please do your part and tell your friends, family, and neighbors that, no matter what the tee-vee
lies about says all “Pride” month of June, the real victimizers and bullies operating out there are gays themselves. And you tell them a gay man in Chicago told you that and will keep telling it until the Gaystapo is stopped once and for all.
QUESTION FOR COMMENTS: What other questions do you have about the “gay community” and the bad things that it does to other people…which the State Media purposefully never reports?
What else is on your minds this Wednesday June 19th, 2013?
– Open Thread –
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Continuing our look at the bad behavior of the “gay community” in the month of June, here are some more reader submitted questions on things the State Media won’t ever tell you about one of the Democrats’ counted-upon goon squads, The Gaystapo:
1. QUESTION: I notice that whenever you talk about the “gay community” you write it in quotes like that. Why is that?
ANSWER: Yes, I totally use quotes for “gay community” and other terms that the State Media has selected…because in the specific case of the “gay community” I just don’t believe there’s an actual “community” there. It’s funny, but for the past few weeks I’ve been helping my friend Justine find a new apartment for her daughter Cassidy here in Chicago and some of the apartment rental websites laud the “community” feeling of their buildings; this is a branding choice…and I’ve seen that the apartment management companies that use that “community” buzzword tend to be ones that target gays, Lefties with master’s degrees, and gray-haired-hippies. A lot of life today is talked in code…and “community” means something different to people living in Chicago than it would possibly to you.
This is hard to explain, but I think when people here in Chicago say “community” they mean that this is safe Democrat territory and that they’re all committed Obama Kool-Aid drinkers. I’m not talking about politics here, though…but just the Us vs. Them attitude that Democrats foster in all aspects of life. Here in Chicago, hardly any of these people know a thing about what’s going on in Washington legislatively or even what elected officials do…but instead they are just taught that Democrats are good and Republicans are evil…and to be “good” people must thus be as evil as possible to anyone who is not a Democrat. I think by emphasizing that “community” stuff in the rental websites that those companies are trying to recruit fellow-travelers and also simultaneously send a message that if you are not a Lefty that this building is not for you. Because of federal housing regulations they can’t come out and say NO CONSERVATIVES NEED APPLY (though, actually, one apartment rental place actually did that and they got in big trouble for it):
I think when people talk about the “gay community” they are really identifying the Leftist nature of this group…and the fact that they take pride in circling the wagons against their “enemies”. Think of this in gang terms…where saying “we’re the gay community!” is like everyone standing on the corner in matching gang jackets and saying “if you mess with one of us you mess with all of us”. There’s an element of a threat in the word “gay community” that is very subtle, but it’s there if you really think about it in Us vs. Them terms…where “Them” probably means people like you whom the “gay community” might come after some day if you are declared to be one of these “enemies” of the community.
The Ministry of Truth that is our State Media transactions in newspeak oxymorons because apart from the Us vs. Them attitude there is not really much “community” feeling involved in the “gay community”. A real community to me is one where neighbors look out for one another, bring food when someone is sick, help people find jobs who need them, carpool, have keys to each other’s homes and bring in the mail or papers when people are on vacation, etc. I have known a lot of real communities like this…but always in the suburbs…in enclaves of conservative-minded people.
Here in Leftist dominated Chicago there is no real sense of “community” anywhere. People tend to fend for themselves and will not normally help anyone else with anything. However, if “leaders of the community” stand up and point at a collective enemy, Leftists are thrilled to have someone to scream at, berate, or malign side-by-side together. They call this “community”, but it’s really more of an organized mob of hateful people who are happiest when they have a shared target to fix on.
The Left really operates with a hive mentality. When you hear “gay community” or “black community” or “Hispanic community” you really need to see 99% of the people who self-identify as members of that “community” in terms of worker ants who do what the Queen of the “community” tell them to do. In Boystown, I’ve identified the ruling elite of the “gay community” as The Gaystapo…and I coined the term “Ayatoldjas” for the individual big-wigs who send out the directives and set the tone for all the worker ant gays to follow. When an Ayatoldja points at someone and calls that person a “bigot”, for instance, throngs of unthinking gays “in the community” will pour out of the woodwork to scream, yell, shake their butts, and hurl epithets at the designated target.
Of course, this is VERY similar to how Muslims behave…where the imams and ayatollahs pronounce fatwas and issue jihads against specific individuals that are declared enemies of Islam. In Boystown, I have long identified Arthur “Art” Johnston as one of the principle Ayatoldjas who rev the “gay community” up against specific people; since Ayatoldja Johnston owns the largest and most popular gay bar in Chicago (Sidetrack the Video Bar) and hosts regular events where anti-Christian and anti-conservative videos are played or speeches are delivered, the Ayatoldja Johnston behaves much like the Ayatollah Khomeini did back in Iran…informing the unthinking thugs within earshot what nasty things they need to do “to the enemies of our community”.
I’ve never seen anyone really make this connection before, but I think this explains why gays never criticize Muslims (despite Muslims openly murdering gays in any country controlled by Islam); the reason The Gaystapo says nothing bad about Islam is of course partially related to the very real fear that Muslims will murder anyone who criticizes Islam…but also because gays and Muslims share many common operational tactics. All of this is spelled out in both the Alinsky Rules for Radicals and the Koran…which are zealously followed by the thugs and bullies that populate both “the gay community” and Islam (“the Religion of Peace”).
2. QUESTION: Are you ever afraid for your life because you speak out against bad things gay people do?
ANSWER: Funny you should mention that. Early Monday morning June 17th, 2013 I was actually physically threatened by several employees of Sidetrack the Video Bar…who clearly are not pleased by my coverage of the terrible things the Ayatoldja Johnston and his staff of maliciously mischievous bullies do to Christians and conservatives in any proximity to “the gay community”. Twice — and at two different bars in Boystown — I was told specifically that the Ayatoldja Johnston had some sort of meeting about me that directed employees of Sidetrack to “get me”. One employee even said that the Ayatoldja wants my “throat slit”. Clearly, the “gay community” is not happy with me for taking this month-long look at the dark side of the rainbow.
My boyfriend Justin is convinced I’m going to be murdered and even friends of mine in conservative ranks tell me the investigations I’m currently conducting and the stories I’m chasing aren’t “worth getting killed over”. I’m going to upset a lot of people by saying this next part, but I was also told by a pretty prominent conservative writer that I should be more like “the new Breitbart.com” and not be so provocative…because since Andrew Breitbart’s death writers like Joel Pollack, Ben Shapiro, Tony Lee and the rest at Andrew’s old media company have really backed off and don’t engage in the hard-hitting and take-no-prisoners style that Andrew championed. Where Andrew took action and got results every day by being unafraid, the inheritors of his brand seem more interested in just listening to themselves talk and never actually doing very much. I think they’re scared and wonder if any of them succumb to paranoia and conspiracy theories and believe Andrew Breitbart really was murdered by the Left for being such a pain in the Obama Regime’s
hopeychange side from 2009-2012.
So far, I’ve not been physically attacked by any Sidetrack employees…but yesterday I was forced to file a Cease & Desist letter with Art Johnston’s attorneys about the menacing and harassing nature of his employees’ behavior towards me while out and about in Boystown. I do not set foot inside Sidetrack itself because I believe I actually might indeed be killed if I did…but I need to be out and about in the bars of Boystown because that’s where I get all the intel for my reporting. I need to go where my sources are and I can’t be bullied into staying away from the Halsted strip just because the Ayatoldja Johnston has seemingly issued a jihad against me.
As I’ve always said: if the Ayatoldja Johnston is upset because I report on the bad things he does in “the community” and particularly inside his bar Sidetrack, then he should stop doing bad things and I’d have nothing to write about. I think I’m actually pretty fair as an essayist and reporter and if Art Johnston ever did in fact abjure the Alinsky tactics he’s long employed against Christians and conservatives (and call on others in the Gaystapo to do likewise) that I would applaud his effort and would happily take a stage with him some time and congratulate him in person for stepping out of the dark side.
I would LOVE to see this self-styled “leader of the gay community” in Chicago openly condemn the bullying, incendiary tactics employed by gays against Christians nationwide. Yesterday, in fact, a group of gays revved up by the videos and the speeches made recently at Sidetrack the Video Bar screamed, yelled, and intentionally disrupted mass held at the Lady of Mt. Carmel Catholic Church on Belmont in Lakeview.
This is a church that the Ayatoldja Johnston has personally targeted for abuse in the last several years…because this particular Catholic congregation stood up for its rights and challenged the timing and parade route for Chicago’s annual Gay Pride Parade (held the last Sunday of June), since the parade disrupts the church’s long-scheduled services. This Catholic congregation has, in fact, existed long before there was ever a “pride parade” on the last Sunday of June and they’ve had the same schedule of religious services for decades. They were there FIRST but they are excoriated as villains by the Gaystapo because they will not go away and be silent when gay bullies so order them.
Is it fair for this church to ask the City to allow its parishioners to be able to attend service without being blocked by the parade (since the parade streams right down Belmont and cuts off access to Mt. Carmel on “Pride Sunday”)? Hell to the YES it’s fair. Why can’t the parade be held on a Saturday instead of Sunday so that it does not interfere with Christian services?
Is it right for the Ayatoldjas of the “gay community” to rev up hatred agains the church because these parishioners have asked for some sort of compromise that would allow both the parade to happen but also for people to be allowed to come to mass without being blocked or harassed? Hell to the NO.
But, this is the hypocrisy of the “gay community” folks. Yesterday, when obnoxious gays revved up by the videos and speeches at Sidetrack attacked Mt. Carmel and screamed “BIGOTS! BIGOTS BIGOTS!” every time the door to the church opened the majority of them were holding signs emblazoned with the logo for “Equality Illinois”; this is the organization that Art Johnston funds with revenue from and events held at Sidetrack the Video Bar. Professionally-made signs and banners with Equality Illinois’ logo on them do not just appear out of thin air, magically, whenever a group of gay bullies needs to harass Christians. You can’t just buy this stuff off the rack at your local Gay-Mart.
This is part of a larger and very orchestrated war against Christianity that the Gaystapo gleefully participates in.
But you would never in a million years see an astroturfed protest like this in front of a mosque. Gays are only bullies to people who they know won’t do very much to stand up for themselves…but gays are terrified of ever offending Islam because they know that Muslims will in fact slit their throats and behead them in the streets.
My boyfriend Justin and (of course) his mother CarolAnne believe I should be afraid that the Ayatoldja Johnston has called for jihad against me in the “gay community”…because I think he believes that dispatching his Sidetrack employees to menace and harass me wherever they find me will make me shut up and end my challenges to the hateful, malicious, and Alinsky-fueled activities the Gaystapo engages in here in Chicago. While this is all happening in every single city with a large gay population, I have identified the Gaystapo’s principle Ayatoldja in Chicago and will continue to document the vile things that he and his employees keep doing in this city. Until they stop, behave themselves, and truly form a loving and safe community that respects others in the way that gays are always shouting for Christians to respect them. Ironically, I refer you to Alinsky Rule #4: Make the enemy live up to its own book of rules for others.
I loved Andrew Breitbart because he had enough of the Left’s Alinsky garbage and wasn’t afraid if they killed him for calling them out on the evil things the Left does. I feel exactly the same about Art Johnston and his maliciously mischievous bullies at Sidetrack the Video Bar. I am not going anywhere. I will not stop writing about the persecution of Christians and conservatives these people engage in. If they lay a hand on me, I will urge their prosecution for assault and will ensure that Art Johnston himself is held vicariously liable for the actions of his employees (since it is so clear that he personally is allowing, encouraging, and inciting these guys to menace and harass me).
And, just for sake of argument, if Justin and CarolAnne are ever right and any of these people do kill me…trust that I have a Doomsday Scenario plan in place for that. Everything I have ever collected on every single operative of the Left that I’ve been holding as life-insurance for myself will be released by friends in many different states if thugs like the Sidetrack Gang do indeed murder me. Something tells me more level-headed members of the institutional Left don’t want that to happen…and will hopefully rein the Ayatoldja Johston in and force him to rescind his jihad against me.
I am afraid enough for my safety at this point to share this all with you…but I’m going to channel Andrew Brietbart’s spirit and will keep doing what I am doing since the State Media will never report on anything bad that the “gay community” does. As a nation we need to call gays out for thuggish, bullying behavior and stand up for all the Christians and conservatives out there who are too easily threatened and never stand up for themselves.
Haven’t you had enough of the gay goon squad using June to pummel Christianity? When on Earth are you going to be a little bit Breitbart and say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH and force gays to adhere to the same standards of behavior that they demand from others?
QUESTION FOR COMMENTS: What else do you want to know about the “gay community”? No holds barred, no topic off limits.
What else is on your minds this Tuesday June 18th?
– Open Thread –
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Today is Father’s Day…and it’s also a week before the large-scale “Pride” events take place here in Chicago. So, I’ve tried to collect questions people have submitted about the role of fathers in a gay guy’s life and will attempt to answer some of these queries today about the relationships a lot of gay guys have with their dads. This is part of our ongoing month-long look at everything you may have ever wondered about the “gay community” but were always afraid to ask; since our first gay president Barack Obama officially declared June to be “Pride Month” and the State Media continues to use June to paint gays as perpetual victims of evil, persecution-prone Christians…I think it’s only appropriate that we look at all of the things that Democrats don’t like to address when it comes to gays.
1. QUESTION: Do gays have good relationships with their fathers when they are growing up? Does a man turn his son gay by doing something wrong as a father that leads his son to be gay?
ANSWER: I’ve noticed a very interesting pattern that’s held true with almost everyone I’ve known in the “gay community” since I came out at age 18…and that’s the consistent fact that most gay guys are closer to their mothers than their fathers…and with lesbians, it’s the reverse. There seems to be strong anecdotal evidence that suggests gay guys tend to have better adult friendships with their mothers…while lesbians tend to be closer to their dads; the really interesting thing, though, is that growing up and before coming out gay guys seem to have fought more with their mothers and lesbians appear to have battled it out with their fathers…while the same-sex parents were distant or nonexistent in their lives. Additionally, the opposite-sex parent seems to have been largely oblivious to the son or daughter being gay while the same-sex parent picked up on something “being different” super early (and often earlier than the gay person him or herself even realized he or she was “different”).
One of the things that Leftists enjoy doing is claiming that you can’t generalize or stereotype (except whenever that works to Democrats’ advantage, of course). But, I think that’s garbage and believe that stereotypes exist for a reason…and that’s because patterns do in fact emerge in people’s behavior and general rules can be culled from observing things that happen over and over again in certain demographic groups. The Left enjoys playing Devil’s Advocate and insisting that if one example can be found that disproves a stereotype then you have to abandon it…but that’s just more Alinsky nonsense from these dangerous loons. Don’t listen to them. Stereotypes are great because they are a kind of cultural shorthand that comes in handy all the time. I love them!
The vast majority of gay guys I know fought like cats and dogs with their mothers when they were growing up…but almost none of the straight men I know had much conflict at all with their mothers as kids; as adults, something weird happens and gay guys become closer to their moms than the straight guys are with their mothers. In fact, when their mothers are like Debbie Reynolds’ age, gay guys are taking their moms to drag shows and male strip clubs. It’s hilarious…and the mothers make sure to tell every jockstrapped go-go-boy in a bar how proud they are of their gay sons.
With lesbians I know, their dads were the targets of their teenaged angst…but then become confidantes when these lesbians become adults; straight girls are usually “daddy’s girls” growing up and that doesn’t seem to change much when they are older (and straight women seem to stay “daddy’s girls” to their dads and never become as close of adult friends with their fathers as they are with their mothers). Straight girls tend to revere their fathers while telling their mothers all their secrets…and the fathers are supposed to always see the daughters as virginal, perfect perpetual sixteen year olds. Lesbians, meanwhile, learn auto mechanics and technical skills from their dads and have long and involved conversations with them about investments, real estate, general contracting, hunting, and other things that even straight boys don’t get much counsel from their dads on. I don’t know of any lesbians who sit around drinking beer and talking to their fathers about Playboy centerfolds…but I also don’t know many dads who give their straight sons the kind of in-depth life advice about financial matters and practical things that the fathers of lesbians give their daughters.
It’s pretty fascinating, really…and it would be fun to apply for a multi-million dollar federal grant to study all of this in exhaustive detail (since, at this point, if you aren’t looting the Treasury alongside everyone in the Obama Regime then you are missing the whole point of the Golden Age of Hope and Change), but I think there is a repeating pattern that with gay people the opposite-sex parent is the antagonist in childhood but then somehow the gay kid becomes an adult who is much closer to the opposite-sex parent than the same-sex parent after age 27 or so. I don’t know what’s so special about age 27…but almost every gay person I know has a life that can be looked at as “Before he turned 27″ or “After he turned 27″. My boyfriend Justin thinks something to do with brain development happens around this age and people just fully “bake” into their adult selves (instead of the mostly raw cookie dough that defines adolescence and the slightly-gooey nearly-there imperfection of early adulthood).
This might be happening even younger for kids who come out in high school (or even grade school) than it did for my age-peers and people older than me, since up until the Millennial generation it was most common for people to come out and embrace their sexuality in college (after age 18)…and being “out” in high school was almost unheard of (especially for people older than Gen X/Gen Y). Double all this for anyone growing up in Cleveland, Ohio (where I am from) or even more remote places like rural Arkansas (from which Justin hails).
On a very personal level, it’s 100% clear to me as I sit and type this at age 36 that my mother knew I was gay about 10 years before I figured it out…and it made her really uncomfortable. My mother and I used to spend a lot of time together by default, since my dad was always off doing something that he enjoyed more than spending time with us; it was always a bowling league, a basketball pick-up game, a flag football match, soccer, hockey, or whatever. That left me home with my mother…and that usually would mean she’d somehow trick me into doing chores at church, “volunteering” without any choice or say in the matter for some community project or another, or helping with whatever my Grandma Emma needed (since my mother’s mother only lived a few blocks away and my mom would do something for her every day…which meant I was conscripting into helping).
I always thought things like baseball or basketball were stupid and pointless and to this day don’t “get” the fun in competing in something that has no consequence. I always loved competition…but I liked it best in terms of getting a good grade on school papers or building a project to win the science fair or drawing a picture that would place high in the local stamp design competition or whatever. Chasing a ball around on a field for several hours just seemed dumb to me when at the end of all that nothing was really decided and no one much cared who won or lost. I still don’t know how grown men can sit around enthralled by ESPN…unless they are secretly gay and are just checking out the young sweaty guys on display (for this reason I am convinced that ESPN actually has more gay viewers than the Tony Awards or Oscars combined). As an adult, a fun day for me is still going to a School Board meeting and demanding to know why a male stripper and erotic entertainer is teaching sixth grade or flustering docents at a museum by challenging all the “global warming” propaganda in the exhibits…and most certainly not running around chasing a ball and trying to kick it into something. I thrive on competition and confrontation…but in decidedly different arenas than I’m supposed to.
I’ve mentioned this story before, but I can clearly remember my mother freaking out when some high school guy in a letterman’s jacket checked me out at the mall when I was around 14 or 15…but I was clueless about what happened. She and I would fight over stupid stuff all the time, or it would be arguments over the fact she’d “tricked” me again into scrubbing the floors of our church with Murphy’s oil soap all Saturday when she told me we were actually going to the mall to get me art supplies I needed for school. The street we lived on back in Cleveland was situated so that at the end of our block if my mom turned left in the car we’d get to the freeway and would actually go to the mall (or wherever she said we were going)…but if she turned right, we’d really be going to either Grandma Emma’s house (to do chores for her) or to church (to do chores there for other people). I remember holding my breath and saying “please turn left, please turn left, please turn left” because every time we’d get in the car I’d hope that my mother had listened and that she wasn’t going to lie anymore about where we were going that day…and that if she said we were going to lunch and buying school clothes or whatever that this is what we would really be doing…but, instead she’d say we were only “going to drop off raffle tickets” or just “picking up some banana bread from Grandma’s”. I can’t remember a single time when we really in fact just dropped something off or picked something up and didn’t get roped into hours of “volunteer work” when I thought we were headed to Chi Chi’s at Great Northern Mall and then on to Office Max for new binders.
I laugh, because at 36 I actually pull this kind of stuff on my boyfriend Justin all the time without really thinking about it. Just the other day I was telling my good friend Justine (who has a daughter around Justin’s age) that I understand my mother so much better now than I ever did at 26 or certainly 16. I can even imagine why she pulled the “turn right instead of turn left onto the freeway” stunts all the time…she just didn’t want to have the argument about me not wanting to go to Grandma’s again or not wanting to spend the day scraping wax out of the bottom of metal candle-holders with butter knives at church all Saturday…and she figured if I was in the car and it was moving that she’d never have to have that pre-car fight. I’d pout and would roll my eyes as soon as the car started turning right…but it was just the big charade we’d stage since I’d end up doing whatever she wanted me to anyway. I’d grumble, of course, until we got to church and then I’d be smiling and charming in front of the priest and church ladies and the ever-watching eyes of all the many statued saints…because that’s how I was taught to behave in public and my mother counted on my manners giving her whatever she wanted that day.
With Justin, he’s just extremely lazy and won’t leave the apartment unless he absolutely has to…which means that if we are going somewhere for any reason at all I just instinctively seize the opportunity of being in the car to knock out a couple other errands too. Because I don’t know when it will be that I get him in the car again (and I don’t drive myself). Like, if we have to drop off a package at the post office for his baby niece Astor…I’ll wait until he’s in the car and then rush back into the apartment with a bunch of cardboard boxes that have been sitting on our back porch needing to go to the recycling center (which is on the way to the post office); of course, on the way back from mailing the present to Astor I’ll have him pop over to the grocery store (so that I don’t have to walk up there later to get us supplies). If he’s being crabby about any of this, I’ll think of something really oddball to do after that (like hunting for the impossible-to-find Lay’s Chicken & Waffles flavor potato chips at Target or wherever)…since if he’s in a bad mood already, I do what my mother did and just keep pushing ahead since I know he can’t get much more upset than he already is (thanks, Mom!). Justin absolutely hates this, because in his mind he was just going to the post office because he truly had to…and he doesn’t care much that I see this trip in the car as a rare opportunity to get as much crossed off my to-do list as possible (or to hunt for novelty snack foods like Ahab after whales).
My mother was strategic with her trips in the car exactly like this and saw me as available labor to help knock things off her own to-do list; she also loved to talk and enjoyed having someone to listen to her when she was driving (and strangely here in 2013 Justin is a real chatterbox and loves being listened to as well…so if you felt bad for Justin a second ago you should know that he gives as good as he gets when he’s in that car). The fact that we typically never got around to doing whatever I wanted to do when I stepped into the vehicle wasn’t so much her lying about where we were going as it was her believing she could just quickly do some errands…and then eventually do what we were supposed to do. However, Grandma Emma and the church ladies we’d encounter would want to talk…and talk…and talk…and the day would get away from us. 25 years later, with most of these people long gone and even our old church razed to the ground after being closed by the Diocese, I actually think it’s all sort of sweet…and some days would give almost anything to be back there in Cleveland in 1987 scrubbing the floors under the pews at St. Andrew’s with Murphy’s oil soap while Grandma Emma held court with the Ladies’ Guild somewhere in the Rectory talking about people behind their backs (bless their hearts) or planning the next roast beef dinner or Bazaar carnival.
So, I too, have transitioned from seeing my mother as an antagonist to viewing her as a nice lady who did the best that she could and had good intentions; in Cleveland, we’d call this “meaning well”…regardless of the outcome. I am too old and have been through too much to hold any resentment towards her for anything and enjoy believing she really did the best she could with what she had to work with…in the same way that I wake up each morning with limited time and resources but a sisyphean to-do list. Having a gay kid really threw her for a loop because I don’t think that was a possibility she ever considered back in the Carter Administration when she was 23 and pregnant with me; I doubt she even believed gay people were real and probably thought they were just a joke like Billy Crystal on “Soap”. I know she was not delighted to deduce I was gay and put together the pieces of that puzzle before I did…especially not in the 1980s when AIDS just terrorized people’s imaginations…and I bet all of Cleveland pretty much believed that a gay guy would die a horrible death as a wasted-away, walking corpse like people had seen with Rock Hudson.
They “gay community” is actually really determined to alienate young gay guys from their families…and I think this works pretty well with guys when they are just coming out…but the spell really does break around age 27 or so. This is because “gay activists” enjoy telling young gay guys fresh on the bar scene that their parents were monsters for not accepting them for who they are or immediately joining PFLAG…or for not mimicking Sharon Gless’ character Debbie Novotny from “Queer As Folk” (who was a flamboyant, rainbow-loving, loud woman who was more excited about her son Michael being gay than he was…see below). Language warning, though…as Debbie can make sailors blush with her vocabulary.
Someone like Mrs. Novotny is who gay activists proclaim every mother has to be..for her to sufficiently “accept” her son…but I don’t think it’s fair to dictate that every mother of a gay son needs to cover herself in rainbows, slap on a Ronald McDonald wig, and sling hash in a 24-hour gay restaurant in Boystown to prove her bona fides. I’m laughing because I actually remember that my mother had a rainbow car air freshener that hung from her rearview mirror all through the late-80s and into the early-90s, and she loved it so much she had a little stack of them in the glove compartment for when one of them went stale. And then around the time that older boy checked me out at the mall everything rainbow-oriented in the house disappeared…including the reserves of air fresheners in the car. I’ve always known my mother didn’t do this as some kind of an F-U to me…but that’s how “gay activists” would paint it. “See”, they’d whisper…”She hates her gay son, so she hates the rainbows…and this is why you must now hate her in return!”.
The only way I can really describe these people is by referring you to the eels Flotsam and Jetsam in Disney’s version of The Little Mermaid (less swearing in this clip, I promise):
“Gay activists” are very much like these eels. They’re a sort of predator in the “gay community” that seek out youth who have just come out or who are in the process of doing so…and the activists endeavor to pull these young guys away from their families. They tell fledging gays that their families are evil and were always terrible to them…but that they can have a happy life “in the community” far away from their parents. Then they sell the young gays all sorts of
eel snake oil about how their mothers and fathers will never understand or appreciate them…but the colorful characters of the “gay community” will embrace them and love them…so long as they vote Democrat and take up positions as foot soldiers in the gay ranks of the Culture Wars. Stray from the Democrats’ planation, however, and Ursula the Sea Witch has got nothing on what the Gaystapo will do to a free-thinking gay man who rejects the Left’s cultural programming. Trust me on that.
It’s sick…but these eels are incredibly effective. In just my years here in Chicago I’ve seen so many young gay guys pulled deep into the Left by these creatures. Some of them never reemerge as anything like the people they were before the Gaystapo laid claim on them.
But, the situation’s not hopeless. As I said, age 27 seems to be a magical time in a gay guy’s life because it’s around then that the eels lose their influence and a lot of guys restore relationships with their mothers…and then after that, their fathers. The fathers are almost always last, though. Even for lesbians. I don’t know why.
The reason for this is very complicated…but it might have something to do with the same-sex parent having more of a problem with the child being attracted to members of the same gender. Maybe there’s less ice to thaw with a mother because she can mentally understand an attraction to hot men (since she liked Tom Cruise and Matthew Broderick back in the day…so maybe it’s easier for her to wrap her head around why her son is so into Henry Cavill and Matt Bomer in 2013) but a father will never “get” why his son finds other dudes so appealing.
I bet a lesbian could have written much more about fathers than I ever could, even on Father’s Day, but my dad just was never a big part of my life. I probably can remember a dozen conversations I ever had with him that didn’t involve him yelling about something or making fun of me…but with hindsight here at age 36 I know he never meant any harm. I have to explain to Justin all the time that in Cleveland there’s a very weird sense of humor called “funnin” (no “g” at the end of that…and absolutely no actual “fun” in the process) whereby people tend to “joke” with one another by saying insulting things, Rodney Dangerfield/Joan Rivers style. Everyone’s supposed to laugh at themselves and not take any of it personally…but I always hated it. My dad LOVED this sort of insult humor, though, and I think his way of being playful with me was to “joke” like that…never really understanding that I thought it was all extremely hurtful and self-esteem-destroying….whereas he just saw it as “funnin”. So, him telling me I acted like “a little sissy” or that I “ran like a girl” or whatever was interpreted differently by our two very different brains.
In all my years, the only other place I’ve ever seen this done outside of Cleveland is actually in Arab cultures…where it’s this weird badge of honor to think up fast-paced insults for someone…and then the other person has to volley them right back at the instigator with even more biting disparaging…and then everyone embraces and laughs heartily like nothing at all about this was passive-aggressive and twisted.
Addressing the “question of the day” today, I don’t believe that fathers can turn their sons gay…because I saw my dad as a jerk for most of my life because of his proclivity for “funnin”…and by this logic wouldn’t you think I’d never want to be with a guy because my dad was so unpleasant for me to deal with? You’d think that would be the last thing I’d want to experience as an adult…since my male role models were all “funners” who were toxic to be around.
I also don’t think it’s fair to say that because my father was always off playing sports in those “Peter Pan” adult football, basketball, soccer and other leagues that he didn’t do enough with me and that made me gay. I think that correlation is not causation in this case, because being gay made me not interested in playing those games…and since he liked sports himself he wasn’t going to let the fact that I didn’t like them stop him from getting exercise and having friends and playing those games. So, he just did what he wanted to do and left me at home since he had sense enough to know I’d be miserable if I was dragged to the basketball court and didn’t want to be there. Would I have rather had him be miserable sitting at home and not doing that stuff just because I didn’t seem to want any part in it? The eels of the Gaystapo would say YES!…but I think those people are idiots.
My dad was a very inventing and crafty guy who built a pool in our backyard because he knew I liked to swim…and in the winter one year when a freak surge of rain flooded the backyard and then immediately froze, he actually rigged up a makeshift ice skating rink back there and bought me a pair of skates. I actually got into hockey as a result of that, which is the one sport I know anything about. Through the years, this has really come in handy when I’ve worked in offices because I am incredibly adroit at turning any conversation to hockey if straight guys are talking sports and try to include me…but I don’t know a thing about baseball, football, or whatever. I am really great at derailing whatever they were talking about and start going on about the Lake Erie Monsters, the Cleveland Barons, or the Pittsburgh Penguins and I skip around through all sorts of decades to make it as confusing as possible for non-hockey-loving straight guys (which is the majority of these people in offices) and then suddenly everyone wants to get back to work and shut up. It’s my number one favorite office survival skill and it has never failed me.
My dad also used to play Star Wars action figures with me…where we’d set the little guys up behind little forts made of cardboard and we’d use these foam-shotting guns that he bought us and we’d have to take out each of the little figures like snipers; whoever still had at least one figure standing at the end won…and my dad never let me win at anything. If I beat him, I beat him…but he had no qualms about trouncing me at anything. I could lose one hundred games in a row and he would laugh in my face because I hadn’t thought up a strategy for beating him. And when I did win, he wouldn’t stand there and be proud or anything…he’d just be pissed and would redouble his efforts to clean my clock another hundred times.
I admire and respect that at 36 because I’ve always felt that my successes in life were my own and I never believed anything was handed to me. “Winning” always means something to me…and I think I respect the arena of competition more as a result. To this day, I’ve never had an opponent as aggressive or unyielding as my own father…not even in the arena of politics.
Great Merciful Zeus, I really miss my dad today. I didn’t see that coming. Like my mom, I know he did the best he could with me. The “gay community” won’t admit this to you, ever, but I think raising a gay kid is a unique challenge that some people aren’t prepared for. It’s a real curve ball…and parents ARE NOT BAD if they don’t handle this perfectly. I know my parents still love me even if we’re estranged because I’m gay…and I also know that if I ever needed them that they’d be there for me. As off-doing-his-own-thing as my father was when I was a kid, if anyone ever messed with me and I couldn’t handle it myself he’d roar to my defense like a saber-toothed tiger. I remember one time a nun at school hit me repeatedly on the ears for coloring the sky on a worksheet purple instead of blue (because I wanted it to be night and for some reason Sister Mary Howard couldn’t handle that)…and when my father heard she’d beat on me in the classroom it was like the Fury of Olympus was directed at that school; he had the principal, the pastor, and that wayward nun in sniveling in tears as he explained to the three of them (like they were small children) that adults do not ever hit students…and he then made each one of these grown people apologize to me and explain why what the nun did was wrong. He didn’t sue the school (like I would have), he didn’t demand the teacher be fired (like i also would have done), and he didn’t publicize it as a national issue (I detect a distinct pattern here)…he just scared the everliving s*** out of all three of them but reigned the fury in just before one of them had a heart attack.
It’s remarkable, but on the few occasions when Justin’s made negative remarks about either of my parents he says that my eyes “go black”, my spine stiffens, and Justin claims “it looks like lightning’s about to shoot out of (my) fists” as I tell him to back off and not criticize people he’s never met and doesn’t understand. I similarly avoid criticizing his parent’s rearing of him and the choices they made in Justin’s upbringing…because I think it’s just beyond trashy to sit in judgment of another person’s parenting style…PARTICULARLY when things involve parents who were thrown the curve ball of raising a gay kid.
I respect my parents more today than I ever did growing up and I regret not having this wisdom back when we were still living under the same roof…or on occasions in the past when I could have thanked them for being awesome or understood them when they were frustrating to me.
At age 36, I am fully aware I have somehow managed to pick up nearly every one of my parents’ worst traits…including the strategically maneuvering the car to head towards any and all errands thing. But I like to think I have the best of them too…on top of doing things my own way as a writer and operative in the digital age. I think I have my mother’s cunning and strategic mind…and I have my dad’s sabertooth smile when needed. They both sort of had the black eyes and lightning bolt stuff that Justin so memorably described…but I think that’s a Cleveland thing that’s picked up just by growing up in Thunderdome. I’m proud to be a son of Cleveland…and my parents’ son as well, faults and all.
When my father was my-age-now he had an 11 year old boy to look out for who didn’t like sports, but who loved “Dynasty” and “Dallas” on tee-vee and who was clearly not ever going to be interested in either girls or growing up to a life in Cleveland. The Flotsam and Jetsam of the “gay community” have honestly drilled into my head since I was 18 that my father should be hated for not being thrilled by this…but I think fairness dictates that I realize no one can ever say how my dad “should” have reacted to the situation. He was who he was in the time and place that he lived in…just as I am now here in Chicago in 2013.
Would I have wanted him to be like fathers on tee-vee who were automatically supportive of everything and who always had the perfect thing to say? Hell to the NO. I never thought the tee-vee dads were all that great…and I am not a kumbaya, everything’s always smooth-sailing sort of guy. I think it would be creepy, actually, if my dad was super-supportive of my being gay and was thrilled by it. How WEIRD would that be to talk about guys with him? It would be weird to do that with my mother, too, but I think this is also a cultural thing with how I was raised and the dynamics of my family. I know some gays just love talking about hot guys with their moms…but that’s as alien to me as working on a carburetor with my dad. Not going to happen in this or any lifetime.
Being with Justin has been such an eye-opening life experience for me because I never realized that growing up in Cleveland I am actually a lot more formal than a lot of people I encounter. Justin’s family belches and passes gas at the dinner table and they all laugh and think that’s just hilarious (like in that movie The Krumps, only Eddie Murphy doesn’t play all of these people). Never in a million years would that have happened in my house. Justin’s mother calls him every single day for three-hour conversations about everything she is terrified of and all the people plotting against her…and I don’t think I ever remember a single time either of my parents talked to me about fears or showed any sort of weakness at all. Justin’s dad drinks beer, gets drunk and loud, and does Reese Witherspoon impressions around town and everyone thinks it’s a spectacular badge of honor…while I think the only time I ever saw either of my parents imbibe alcohol was a single Blue Hawaii during a Don Ho-style dinner show at the Pacific Pearl Polynesian Restaurant back in Ohio or a little champagne on New Year’s Eve (the smallest bottle possible, with most of it poured down the drain at 12:15am 1/1/Whatever).
I like being more formal than people in Arkansas (and/or Reese Witherspoon too)…even though I think there’s nothing wrong with them being however they want to be. I like this in the way that I love being Catholic instead of Protestant…and the way I do like being gay over straight. It’s hard to articulate, but all of this is just part of my cultural heritage, upbringing, and (for lack of a better word) “wiring”. I’m thankful for all of it and wouldn’t change a damn thing. It’s what makes me “me” and I celebrate it all.
I guess I’ll close this “answer” to the original question presented by saying that only the person involved in a relationship can say whether it’s “good” or “bad” because those terms are just so charged and pregnant with all manner of meaning. A lot of gay people will tell you they have terrible relationships with their parents or that they had such awful childhoods…but you need to be skeptical when listening to this garbage. Remember that a lot of gay people fall victim to those elapine “activists” of the Flotsam and Jetsam variety who have a clear agenda in getting as many gay people as possible to declare their parents terrible. Do not ever — not for a Cleveland minute — facilitate this sort of garbage because it only helps the Left.
Optimistically, I think at some point every gay person just naturally stops listening to these duplicitous eels and starts hearing what’s in his or her own heart…and the version of the past that got all twisted up and negated for so many years ultimately is restored to some sense of reality in time. Not all prodigal sons and daughters ever return home…but I’ve seen more than enough of these reunions to know that the “gay activists” lose in the end just as often as they “win” and these monsters don’t keep all families ripped apart.
The Left is a powerful, dark force…but in the end it’s no match for love.
QUESTION FOR COMMENTS: What else would you like to know about the gay community in general? What else don’t you understand as we look at June, “the Pride Month”? No topic is off the table, folks…so if you want to know about it then ask about it.
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Since June is “Pride Month” (as officially designated by our “first gay president” Barack Obama), I think it’s important to take a look as the “dark side of the rainbow” that the media never addresses with the gay community. Hence, ask any question you like about gay people and how they’re often useful idiots for the institutional Left and I’ll answer it in these Open Threads every day for the month of June:
1. QUESTION: As I understand gay sex, a man is trying to put his penis inside some opening usually on another man. Isn’t this pretend hetero sex? Jokes that spew anger at a woman’s anatomy which is the perfect recepticle, sounds like a clever, creative way of referring the anxiety of being a misfit.
ANSWER: Well, the first thing you should know is that not all gay guys are into anal sex…but that straight guys are actually probably more into it at this point, since internet porn that’s been sexualizing the Millennial generation has made this something that straight teens and twenty-somethings are fascinated by. I think it’s gross and insultingly heteronormative…and I think it was the 1970s and 80s porn that pushed it on the “gay community”.
I wish I could remember what documentary this was in, but a gay historian in some movie (it might have been this one: Gay Sex in the 70s…www.amazon.com) talked about how anal sex was heavily promoted in the 1970s in porn movies…and how this culture developed in gay circles that if you weren’t doing this then something was wrong with you. So there was intense pressure to do this, even if you didn’t want to engage in it. Self-styled activists claimed that gay guys needed to do this as an affront to religious people…since it had shades of Sodm & Gamorrah to it…and any self-respecting gay man had to have as much anal sex as possible because it offended religious sensibilities. You should know by now that upsetting religious people is a high priority for gay “activists” eight days a week.
Perversely, all that anal sex led to the explosion of HIV/AIDS transmission…which was a twisted and ironic consequence of deliberately convincing the “gay community” that it needed to engage in anal sex (which, apparently before the 1970s, was not something gay guys automatically did). If not for that push to stick it to religious people by doing the first thing that Bible-quoters scolded gay people for doing, then maybe the AIDS epidemic of the 1980s wouldn’t have happened (at least not to the extent that it did). The Gaystapo leadership, of course, will never take any responsibility for this.
Through the years, I’ve heard a few gay “activists” actually come around to the notion that anal sex is heteronormative behavior that’s trying to force two guys to approximate what a man and woman would be doing sexually…and that this can’t be a good thing because gay people shouldn’t ape what straight people are up to. This is how I feel about “gay marriage” and the “commitment ceremonies” that some gay people want to have…which are just surreal bastardizations of weddings that straight people have.
I’m not a straight person and I am not interested in having a “gay version” of anything that straight people do. No thanks. I like to think I’m more creative and original than that…and that I can invent something of my own for occasions where I’d like to mark an occasion or celebrate something in my own way as a gay man…but I DO NOT WANT a “gay equivalent” of something from the straight world. To me, this is like going to the store and buying RC or store-brand generic cola when the clearly best thing on the shelf is Coke. But, for whatever reason I can’t have the Coke…so I am expected to settle and be happy with the RC or whatever. No thanks. I’ll instead grab some club soda, some fresh pomegranates, a bag of cherries, and make my own juice cocktail that I like better (and is better for me) than the Coke.
Gay people can be really stupid sometimes. I know the media tells you that we’re all clever and funny and so stylish or whatever, but really the “gay community” at large is pretty unthinking and generally just does whatever the Gaystapo leadership tells these people to do. Since anal sex is promoted in porn and it’s depicted as the thing to do for young gay guys, people do it. And, of course, they do it “bareback” (which means without protection) so that HIV/AIDS is spreading at an escalated rate these days. That’s all part of the institutional Left’s plan to infect as many gay men as possible…and thus keep the community under Democrats’ control, with AIDS medications dangled over their heads as a reason to keep voting Democrat forever.
I got into a lot of this yesterday…so scroll down for more on the deliberate spread of HIV in the “gay community” by the institutional Left.
2. QUESTION: I read that sexual assaults in the military have gone up 35%, with most of the increase being attributed to male on male sexual assaults. Does this happen a lot among gay guys? What about lesbians? Do they report it?
ANSWER: This is one of those things where you can’t really believe the statistics being put forward right now. I read that the military recently changed what it considered “sexual assault”…and that term was purposefully widened to include things like pats on the behind…which are gestures of camaraderie that most people who played team sports growing up are familiar with. Suddenly, something like that is being considered “sexual assault”. I also heard that wrestling and other male-on-male horseplay is now being considered “sexual assault” as well…which might be coming as quite the shock to guys who are doing this to one another, since most of them are not gay and don’t mean anything gay in their horsing around.
This is just an example of the military being weakened with this politically-correct garbage. Straight guys are always little boys inside to some extent, and guys like to wrestle and play around. This is especially true if you think about the age of the guys in the military: they are in their late teens to mid-20s, for the most part. Every single military guy I’ve ever known has described the experience as intense “brotherhood”…and the guys in his troop or platoon or whatever were the closest friends he’s ever had. There is nothing sexual in the love that these guys in the military have for each other…and it’s really like a brotherly love that now is being criminalized because of the knee-jerk “everything is sexual assault!” screeching going on.
I smell a rat in this. It feels like someone with an anti-gay agenda is ginning up these numbers so that this group can then say, “See! Lookit! It was a bad idea to allow openly gay people in the military! They are assaulting everybody!”. No, that’s not what’s happening…it’s that someone in the institutional Left adjusted the definition of “sexual assault” recently so that EVERYTHING under the sun is now considered assault…probably just to cause chaos and trouble and to weaken the military’s morale. Which is always a goal of the institutional Left.
I’ve had 16 boyfriends of note in my life, and four of them were military guys (two Marines, an Army Ranger, and one Naval officer); all of them were great guys who loved being in the service…and they had to hide who they really were in order to serve. They were great in their roles in the military…but I can’t help believing they would have been EVEN BETTER had they been allowed to truly be themselves and not have to spend part of their energy every day hiding their sexuality for fear of being maliciously persecuted by agenda-driven officers and booted out of the service at any time. Because that’s what happened under Don’t Ask Don’t Tell…there was blackmail, an ever present threat of someone who didn’t like you outing you just to get rid of you, people who wanted certain jobs stoking witch hunts of gays to better their chances for certain promotions, etc.
Don’t believe these new sexual assault statistics. I think it might be revenge from those who lost their blackmail/intimidation industry when DADT was repealed. The lone regret I have in this life is that I never got to wear the uniform of a United States Marine…and the one thing that kept me from enlisting was that I knew I was gay and couldn’t lie in uniform. I’m too old now at 36 to even be considered for the Marines, or I’d join up in a heartbeat…and I will regret for the rest of my life that I never got to be part of the awesomeness that is the Marines.
I am, however, pleased that young gay guys who are in their teens and twenties don’t have to miss their chance of being part of awesomeness…and the Marines will get fine, creative, and dedicated young men who would have been excluded from the ranks in the past. I like to think I would have made a good Marine and would have given as much as I’d have benefitted from the uniform…and I like knowing that other guys like me in high school and in college now won’t have to miss their chances just because they’ve never had any interest in girls.
QUESTION FOR COMMENTS: What other questions do you have about either the gay community or the institutional Left’s use of gays in strategic terms?
What else is on your minds today, June 11th 2013?
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Continuing our month-long look at “the dark side of the rainbow” and the bad things about the gay community that the media refuses to talk about, here are some more answers to questions submitted by readers via email or thread-comments in recent days:
1. QUESTION: You’ve accused Democrats of purposefully trying to start a new outbreak of AIDS amongst gays. That’s a pretty serious charge. Do you really believe that?
ANSWER: Oh, Hell to the YES…because that’s exactly what they are doing…but the media will never report on this. I believe this to be an orchestrated effort by the institutional Left to increase the number of gay men infected with HIV/AIDS so that these guys end up dependent on the state for medicine…and thus Democrats exploit that dependence and keep these guys perpetual Democrat voters (in much the same way that Democrats endeavor to keep blacks poor and uneducated…and the way they insist on keeping Hispanics from learning English so they too remain poor and uneducated…and the way Democrats attempt to reduce women to just their genitals so that they can be best controlled by the Left as well).
For the last several years, the Gaystapo leadership of the “gay community” has been promoting a thing called “Poz Pride”…which is supposedly meant to show that people with HIV can be active and involved in the “community” alongside HIV-negative people. But, the Left’s marketing and branding machine have been turned up so high on this that it appears there’s a bigger strategy behind all of this. Really, the effort is meant to make young gay guys believe that HIV is nothing to be afraid of anymore and that they no longer need to use condoms…because catching HIV is not so bad…since they can then have “Poz Pride”.
Here in Chicago, Sidetrack the Video Bar hosts “Poz Pride” events where local HIV-positive drag queens and other performers take the stage and claim they are “ending the stigma” attached to having HIV. I can see the reasoning behind having an event to “end the stigma” of having red-hair or being left-handed, but having HIV should be always seen as undesirable. We should be compassionate towards those who have HIV/AIDS…but we should not “end the stigma” so that catching HIV is seen as nothing worse than catching a cold.
This is what the institutional Left is up to right now, though…and it’s both sick and dangerous. A great website for the scoop on gay life in LA is WeHoConfidential…which recently did a story on the young gay guys there not using condoms and engaging in unprotected sex like it was 1979. Be warned: the site is pretty graphic and frank in its discussions of gay sex and they don’t mince words ever. 75% of young gay guys polled say they don’t use condoms when having sex…with 61% of them saying “it’s their personal choice” to not use condoms and that “they love it!”.
This is a direct result of the “Poz Pride” propaganda that’s blanketed the gay community in recent years…because young guys are no longer being told that condoms and avoiding risky sex are the only ways to stay healthy. Now, guys are being told that they have a choice on whether or not to use condoms…and that, basically, if they do catch HIV it’s not the end of the world.
In any gay magazine you pick up you will see ads for HIV medications that show guys climbing mountains, running through the surf, and doing all sorts of high-adventure things outdoors…with tag lines like “HIV no longer holds you back!’. The message is that this is not a big deal anymore and that guys in their 20s and early 30s shouldn’t care about HIV the way Generations X & Y were scared to death of the disease.
Here in Chicago, one study a few years ago showed that 3 out of 5 black gay men were HIV-positive; many of these guys have beards (women they are married to or who serve as their “girlfriends”) and live “on the down low”. Some of these are “men who have sex with men” but who don’t gay-identify…and when they have unprotected sex with other men they then bring whatever they catch back to the black community and spread it to women…who also, it seems, spread it to other men. It’s a truly vicious cycle…and it’s all being encouraged by the propaganda that HIV/AIDS is not something to be concerned about any longer.
Democrats benefit from all of this because people who are sick and who depend on expensive medications to survive look to the government to provide that for them…and Democrats openly promote themselves as the party that believes the government exists to take care of people. Black people are taught by Democrats that the government will give them food and housing and monthly stipends, so that they do not have to work. Women are taught they must vote Democrat because one day they might want to murder a baby growing inside them and only Democrats will celebrate that event. Democrats push for everything to be written in Spanish so that Hispanics never learn English and, thus, remain easy for Democrats to control. Meanwhile, Democrats actively promote risky sexual behavior amongst gays while simultaneously teaching young gay guys that HIV is nothing to be afraid of; the end result is that more gay men get infected with HIV/AIDS and then become dependent on the government…so they get locked in forever as Democrat voters.
It’s hard for a lot of people to understand just how evil the institutional Left truly is…but this is truly happening in big cities like Chicago right now. You can see it too, even if you aren’t part of the gay community, by just picking up any issue of The Advocate, Genre, or OUT magazines and looking through the paid advertisements that pepper the glossy pages. It’s as if HIV/AIDS is a minor inconvenience here in 2013…and one, of course, that Democrats can resolve if gays just stay on the plantation and always vote for the Left.
2. QUESTION: What’s the absolute worst thing you ever saw the “gay community” do to anyone?
ANSWER: I think it’s sick that gay guys really enjoy mocking people who are handicapped or disabled…and in particular, it’s horrible that they still — to this day — make fun of little Trig Palin (Governor Sarah Palin’s youngest child, who has Down Syndrome). Gay comedians in Chicago regularly mocked little Trig. Once again, Sidetrack the Video Bar took the lead in this and aired “comedy sketches” where Trig was mocked for having Down Syndrome. This was about more than just gays wanting to take a stab at Governor Palin by way of her child…and really tapped into a mean streak that runs through a lot of gay guys. They just really and truly do enjoy mercilessly picking on someone as defenseless and innocent as a baby with Down Syndrome.
I don’t know where that comes from, but it might be rooted in the misogyny that’s rampant in the gay community and the fact that a lot of gays refer to straight people as “breeders”. Women’s anatomy is another subject that gays mock and malign in “comedy sketches”…and abortion jokes are always popular in gay comedy venues. It’s actually something gays toss around very casually; you see this on Facebook a lot, where one gay guy will say he is going to be busy all day and another will ask what he’s doing…and the first guy will say, “Oh, just getting an abortion and then heading out for a tan”. Other Facebook friends will write “LOL!” or “Me too!” under that. Not a single one of them will state how sick any of this is…because if someone did, that person would be “defended” and then ostracized.
Gay guys, when in a group of “Mean Girls” like this, often come off as bitter and malicious goblins…who hate women, babies, and traditional families. There’s a true sense of bitterness and resentment in them when they do this. A lot of times, they seem like monsters in a fairytale who would be living under a bridge…but here in 2013 they’re camped out on Facebook spreading hatred towards pregnant women and little babies. It’s sick.
I think this is also part of a deliberate push by the institutional Left to use gays to destroy the classic American nuclear family. The Left really wants all children to be raised by single mothers…and for all families to be on some sort of welfare. The Left would like all men to either be gay or to be absent from a household, so that little boys will grow up being indoctrinated solely by their teachers in public schools…who, of course, teach little boys that they are bad because they have penises and that they should never exhibit any masculine traits or characteristics (since those are bad too). The institutional Left is counting on these teachers to produce young men who are wimpy, who never question authority, and who believe the government is the solution for everything.
Gays often serve as the pop culture goon squads that enforce a lot of this thinking in the entertainment industry…or who remain ever at the ready to be deployed as attackers of traditional families at events in June themed to “Pride”. Just watch: a lot of these parades and festivals will not be focused on how great it is to be gay…but how bad traditional families are and how “disgusting” those “breeders” are that have children and nuclear families.
QUESTION FOR COMMENTS: What other things have you wondered about the “gay community” or the role it plays for the institutional Left?
What else is on your minds this Monday June 10th, 2013?
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As we push deeper into June, you’re going to be hearing more screeching and wailing from the “gay community” about all the evil things that Christians and conservatives supposedly do to gays in the year 2013. Almost all of what the media writes in newspapers and magazines or reads off the tee-vee is lies and propaganda…all designed to use gays as a means of attacking conservative Americans, since any criticism of gays is deemed “homophobia” (in much the same way that speaking out about bad things that black people do is called “Ray Ciss” by the Ministry of Truth that is our national media). I’ve been enjoying fielding questions from all of you about things you’ve long-wondered about the “gay community” and hope you continue to submit your queries via email or in these daily threads through the entire “Pride Month” of June. Nothing is off limits and I’ll do my best to get to every question asked.
1. QUESTION: I’m an older person, so I grew up at a time when being gay wasn’t cool and people didn’t come out, sometimes not for their whole life. I have known people who considered themselves “asexual.” I believe they were really gay but couldn’t accept that, and they were never attracted to the opposite sex, so they just opted out. One of them was a man, and when he got to know some gay men in college (and some of them hit on him) he said he hated gays. He also had a lot of women hit on him, or fall in love with him, and he hated that too. I still believe he was really gay, but I don’t know if he ever accepted it. Does that happen now?
ANSWER: I think some people really are “asexual” and don’t have an attraction to either gender. I’ve listed him as an example before and will note him again now…Tim Gunn. He’s the host/mentor of the Project Runway reality show and he talks openly about being asexual. He started off as gay and then had a horrible breakup in the past and decided he didn’t want to put himself through that again. Clearly, he still has some attraction to guys because he flirts with a lot of the male contestants on the show…but I don’t even know if he realizes he’s doing it. He states regularly that he has not had any sort of romantic involvement with a guy in a very, very long time though and is now asexual.
I have met some asexual people who say they never were attracted to either gender. I believe them. There is a lot we don’t know about the human brain. I don’t think that asexual people are destined to be lonely or anything…because the ones I’ve known have a lot of friends and live full lives. I think it’s unfair to look at someone and say that he or she needs to be with someone to be happy or enjoy life.
Truth be told, I loved being single and actually had no intention of ever having a boyfriend again…and then Justin came along. He’s a great guy and I love being with him, but if he’d decide to move back to Arkansas at some point in the future because he prefers living in the country and I am a city boy through and through then I wonder if I’d ever have a live-in boyfriend again. I got so much more work done when I was single and there are a lot of freelancing gigs that I end up not taking because something Justin-related gets in the way. I think there’s going to be a point in life where I’m going to have to choose between career opportunities and being in a relationship…and I don’t know what the choice is going to be.
More people than you would think make that sort of choice all the time…and being single is their preferred vocation. It seems like a lot of people who have been married for a long time seem to think that being single is bad or lonely, but it’s not. It’s just a different way to live, with its own pros and cons.
2. QUESTION: You mentioned in a previous post about gay men having hot girls to hang out with who consequently attract other gay men into their circle. This must sound silly, but how do gay men know what constitutes a “hot girl”? Must she look like a super model? I work with many straight men from various backgrounds and what one finds hot the other finds unattractive. Would you say there’s more interracial dating among gays than straights? Would you say that the majority of gays on the left who are screaming for gay marriage rights are not in fact that into marriage and fidelity? Seems like you’ve stated or implied that cheating and strip clubs are a big part of the gay lifestyle as many of the gays, at least in Boystown, are overgrown adolescents. Just trying to understand when the gay lifestyle transitioned from flamboyant to two guys driving a sedan transporting kids to soccer practice.
ANSWER: I’m totally gay but I think I can identify a “hot girl” really well…but I think my standards are much, much higher than a straight guy’s. To me, a woman is “hot” when she’s classy, elegant, beautiful, outgoing, witty, and is comfortable in her own skin. She’s the kind of girl who walks into a room and turns heads and never gets lost in a crowd. There’s just a spark to her, and gay guys want to be her friend while straight guys want to get her number. She’s the sort of girl that can be very picky with whom she chooses to go out with…because she certainly doesn’t lack for suiters. There’s no requirement for her to be supermodel thin, though…and she doesn’t have to be a young co-ed either. I have friends who are very hot women and they are all sizes, colors, and ages…but sitting here thinking about your question the one thing that they all share is that sense of self-confidence.
These are women who don’t need anyone to tell them they are beautiful or to buy drinks for them or carry their purse or whatever…and I think what makes them so attractive is that a party or a night at the club really does pick up when they come around. Gay men like and respect women who are confident, never mousy, and who appreciate their own worth.
The other side of this coin is that there remains a type of girl with low-self-esteem and no self-confidence who tends to hang around gay guys or go to gay clubs because she then has an excuse for not meeting any straight guys ever or having a boyfriend…and those are the girls that the media still calls “fag hags” (but I think that’s an ugly and hateful term that you should never use). When I talk about women like this, I call them “Graces” (in reference to the character Grace Adler from the old tee-vee show “Will & Grace”, as played by Debra Messing in the late-90s and early 2000s); I’ve also seen these women called “fruit flies” (also derogatory) or “fairy princesses” (which is nicer-sounding, but still cutesy-tunes). I feel bad for these girls because they end up being dragged around as an audience for gay guys to either make laugh (at the gay guys’ jokes) or make fun of (when the gay guys talk about how “pathetic” she is when she goes to use the bathroom or something). Younger gay guys in their 20s and early 30s enjoy having hangers-on like this and like performing for the audience of “Graces” who get dragged around sidekick-style by these gays.
No self-respecting woman would ever be a “Grace”, let alone a “fag hag” or “fruit fly”. It’s cool to have gay friends…but strive to be the awesome, confident, incredible woman that gay guys want to hang around…and never be the sad, lonely, desperate “Grace” who vicariously lives through gay men’s adventures or who serves as an ever-present audience for their antics.
As for interracial dating, that almost never happens in the “gay community” because black men are treated HORRIBLY by gay guys. Gays are incredibly racist in general and really enjoy “ghetto humor”, where comedians in gay clubs or bars mock black people’s intelligence, their style of speaking, and drug use in the black community. I’ve written about this in recent weeks because of comedian Bradley Thomas Balof (who is also a Chicago public school teacher) and the fact that he mocks his black students for gay audiences (and elicits uproarious laughter from them as a result). This is incredibly common…and truly sad. But gays without any comedic talent know they will have audiences falling off their chairs with laughter if they make fun of black people.
To be fair, in black comedy clubs all around town THOSE comics are making fun of gays and receiving similar uproarious laughter from black people who think making fun of “fags” is funny. This is one of those instances where two factions of the institutional Left’s voting bloc hate, malign, and mock one another all the time…but you probably never hear about that.
There is a segment of gay white men who are REALLY into black guys when it comes to the “leather community”; these are guys that are submissives and enjoy being dominated by black men. There’s a whole “white slave/black master” sub-genre of the gay fetish community where white gay men enjoy having black men urinate on them, whip them, or treat them as collared slaves. At the recent International Mr. Leather (IML) festival held in Chicago over Memorial Day Weekend there was even a white slave auction where black “masters” got to bid on and collect white sex slaves for use during the festival. This is a regular thing…and a typical part of BDSM activities.
It’s rare, though, to find gay guys who aren’t into leather or fetish who date black men. At bars, black guys are usually excluded and ignored. This is really tragic because these same black guys are alienated from the black community, since blacks direct a lot of hatred towards gays. That’s why there’s so much pressure for these guys to keep quiet about being gay and live “on the down low”, the way Barack Obama and other high-profile gay black men do. Life is so much easier for them if they just screw around with guys in private and maintain public beards so they don’t become the butts of jokes for those black comedians.
As far as “gay marriage” goes…I can tell you that many of the gays I see in Chicago screaming for “marriage equality” are all in open relationships or cheat on their boyfriends all the time. So, they really don’t want “marriage equality” so much as they want to “win” and “defeat” conservatives and Christians. Does that make sense? It’s like small children wanting and wanting and wanting something for Christmas…but if you’d buy them that, they’d not even play with it and be onto wanting something else. Or, more apt, they just want the thing because then someone else can’t have it…and then once they’d get it they’d lose interest in it entirely. I think “gay marriage” is just something for a lot of these guys to screech about because they want the attention of screaming and yelling and they also enjoy feeling like they are “activists” because they are demanding this. But, they really don’t want to be in committed relationships because that would mean they’d have to stop going to Steamworks and having anonymous sex with strangers every weekend.
I don’t really think 90% of these people want to drive a sedan and go to soccer practice. Most of them want to keep living above the bars in Boystown, picking up different boys every night for sex, and spending all their paychecks every two weeks on designer clothes, booze, and frequent trips to places even more fabulous than Chicago. Lesbians may want to settle down and drive sedans…but gay guys are lost boys who just want to keep partying.
3. QUESTION: Kevin, how do you feel about gay or lesbian couples adopting kids?
ANSWER: I think it’s sad that the media doesn’t focus on what is actually best for the kids in these hypothetical adoptions. As in, the emphasis is put on whether gays should be allowed to adopt or not…as if we’re talking about gays being allowed to buy movie tickets or gays being allowed to sit in the window booths at a restaurant. This should not be about what gay people want to do or like to do…but should be about whether kids would thrive and have great lives with a gay couple.
I actually think lesbians would probably make great parents as a rule but that gay guys really aren’t mature or responsible enough to be adoptive parents. There are exceptions to this, of course, but I think stereotypes exist for a reason and that is because they are rooted in some truth. I do think that if gays adopt that they should only adopt opposite-sex children. So, lesbians can raise little boys and gay guys should raise little girls…but that they should not be awarded same-sex children ever. That’s airing things on the side of extreme caution…which is what should happen when adoption is being talked about.
I don’t think enough attention is put on WHY gay “activists” screech about wanting to adopt kids. Is this something they truly want to do altruistically to help needy children…or is this yet again about gay people wanting attention and demanding things, just because like spoiled children they have a need to be in the news wailing about SOMETHING. That now-defunct tee-vee show “The New Normal” that aired on NBC last season featured a very spoiled and self-centered gay couple that wanted to adopt a child because the more flamboyant of the two guys wanted to buy baby clothes and he felt that Angelina Jolie, Madonna, and Sandra Bullock were outpacing him in life because they were able to adopt. When the adoption agency turned these guys down, they just decided to have a surrogate carry a baby for them instead; they had more money than they knew what to do with and this baby was essentially just another expensive thing they were buying for themselves. Twenty years ago, they would have been purchasing a white tiger or albino lion cub…but in 2013 they want a baby as an exotic status symbol.
Now, one of my exes actually adopted a troubled teen with his partner…and they created a great little family. The teen they adopted was bounced around foster homes for years and was one of the kids that would have aged-out of the system into a pretty crummy life at some point. But, my ex and his partner gave this kid a nice, safe home and helped get him back on track in life. I think they plan on doing this for another troubled teen after this current one goes on to college. My ex was adopted himself in a similar situation when he was younger and he’s “paying forward” the kindness of his adoptive parents.
So, his intentions were altruistic and solid…and not seeking attention or status.
I think that adoption agencies should be draconian strict when it comes to the best interests of the child…and that no one should feel politically-correct pressure to hand a kid off to a gay couple just because it’s hip and cool to do so…or because the agency is terrified of the Gaystapo picketing or screeching for this to happen. If there is any indication that a gay couple is seeking to adopt just because they want a living doll to play with or because they think this will give him a great status symbol they coveted, then the adoption should be denied.
I do think it’s ideal for a child to have a mother and a father in a stable household…and that the institutional Left has been undermining this for so many decades that people seem afraid to state the truth. But, a mother and a father give a child the best chance of succeeding in life…and I don’t think that two mothers or two fathers has that same stable environment. I think the goal of an adoption should be to give a child the very best situation possible…and if there are straight couples who are able to care for children I do believe they should be given preference.
It might sound politically-incorrect, but the only children I think should ever be even considered for adoption by gays are the kids that can’t be placed with any straight couple…like that troubled teen that no one else wanted that my ex and his partner adopted. If gays REALLY want to adopt and really are doing it because they want to help, then let them take on the troubled teens who need good homes. But, leave the adorable little babies that spoiled gay couples seem to covet as living dolls to straight families who can better care for these children.
I just know I’m going to get hatemail on this one, but it’s about damn time someone said this. Because it’s true!
4. QUESTION: My questions- What is your opinion on the recent Boy Scouts of America decision to allow openly gay youths to participate in its activities? What is “openly gay” anyway?
ANSWER: I think that gay boys under 18 should be allowed to participate in Boy Scouts…but should be kicked out and prosecuted under applicable laws if they do anything sexual to other boys while in scouting (just as ANYONE should be handled if they do anything like that, whatever their gender or preference). So, just strictly enforce the rules of conduct in scouting for everyone and things will be fine.
It’s a new phenomenon, this coming out as a grade-schooler or teenager. Nothing like that was possible when I was a kid in the 80s and 90s. We should also be very clear that we are talking about VERY RARE circumstances where a boy would be gay, know he is gay, be openly gay, and also want to be in boy scouts. I didn’t realize I was gay until I was 18…so I would not have been one of the people involved in this situation back in the 80s and 90s.
I think this is going to be a non-issue just because of the very small number of boys that would be involved in the matter. And I bet if those boys are indeed openly gay that it would be pretty obvious to anyone who is not deaf and blind that the kids are gay…as the ones who tend to come out really early are the kinds of boys who are pretty flamboyant and flaming. I’m sure I’ll get hatemail for saying that, but it’s true. The more flaming you are, the earlier you come out…like that character Kurt on the tee-vee show “Glee”. He was just so gay that he would have exploded in a swirl of rainbows and confetti if he hadn’t come out in high school.
“Openly gay” refers to admitted you are gay to yourself and others. Here’s how this would play out:
Some idiot asks a clearly gay little boy “Do you have a girlfriend yet?”. I don’t know if people are this stupid in 2013, but when I was a kid I would get asked this by idiots in Cleveland and it would make me very uncomfortable. I didn’t figure out that I liked boys, yet, but I knew I didn’t want a girlfriend and all sorts of well-intentioned fools would push this issue with me…asking me if I had a girlfriend in a tone of voice that made it clear the answer I should give was “YES” and that any other answer was wrong.
An “openly gay” boy would answer: “No, I don’t have a girlfriend. I like boys. I have a crush on your son, Jimmy, in fact”. Maybe he would not be that forward…and maybe he’d just say, “No, I’m gay” and leave it at that. But an openly gay kid would not humor the idiot or be embarrassed about stating without question that NO he was not interested in girls.
I think it’s great that someone is that self-aware as a kid to know he is gay while in grade school or high school…if he really came up with that notion on his own and this was not forced on him by parents who think it’s cool to have a gay kid. I bet it’s really rare for a young kid to be openly gay…but I think that tee-vee shows like “Glee” are making it much easier to come out earlier, since they are presenting being gay as an option that was definitely not presented when I was grade school or high school age.
QUESTION FOR COMMENTS: What other questions do you have about what goes on in the gay community?
What else is on your mind this Saturday June 8th, 2013?
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